But more seriously, all these traits are shared by everyone, it's a question of degree.
Oh, absolutely. And I think that is the point we are trying to cautiously make to Anita - that, after reading thousands of her words, there are certain traits that have emerged as extreme.
For example, certain narcissistic ones that UncaYimmy listed above.
There are also others that she has displayed, such as Prof. Yaffle
noted: "Grandiose delusion: An individual exaggerates his or her sense of self-importance and is convinced that he or she has special powers, talents, or abilities. Sometimes, the individual may actually believe that he or she is a famous person (for example, a rock star or Christ). More commonly, a person with this delusion believes he or she has accomplished some great achievement for which they have not received sufficient recognition."
As well as:
# Peculiar thinking, beliefs or behavior
# Belief in special powers, such as telepathy
# Perceptual alterations, in some cases bodily illusions, including phantom pains or other distortions in the sense of touch
# Idiosyncratic speech, such as loose or vague patterns of speaking or tendency to go off on tangents
# Suspicious or paranoid ideas
# Flat emotions or inappropriate emotional responses
No one here is attempting to diagnose her, simply point out to her traits and/or individual symptoms that we have observed to stand out in what she has presented of herself here. Anita came to us, unbidden, with these extraordinary claims. She claimed she wanted help in designing a protocol to test whether her ability was, in her words, "extrasensory perception or something akin to synesthesia" and the origin of her ability. I think it is fair to point out to her that the origin of her ability may be in these traits we have observed, as long as we are cautious not to diagnose her.
As well, Anita attempted to "self diagnose" herself, so I think we can safely objectively refute that, point by point, since she opened the door.
Of course, several of us have continually advised her to consult with a professional.
So with narcissists and sociopaths, these traits are extreme, and enduring, not situational.
I think it is fair to say that Anita has given an indication that many of these traits are enduring, since she claimed that her "ability" began when she was 15, and she is now 26. I also think it is fair to say that most of these traits appear to be "extreme" in her case.
But, puffery in your 20's is not so unusual. People grow out of it.
Very true, and she may yet do so. But, it is now that she has brought her claims here, so we can only observe the traits she currently exhibits.
But, I must admit, when I saw desertgal's list of visionfromfeeling's claims, my jaw dropped.
Which is a good example of what we are basing our observations on. It's not just one claim, it is many, and not just one statement, but thousands of words. As well, in UncaYimmy's case, several one on one, less guarded conversations with Anita, and with Sleepy Lioness, Professor Yaffle, and my own case, personal knowledge of personality disorders (either with ourselves or a loved one) which has made us sensitive to detecting similar traits in others.
As well, since she came here, on her own, under the pretext of having the skeptics here help her develop a protocol, and she has rejected advice and observations, as well as interjecting even more outlandish claims, and freely dispensing insults and condescension, I think it's fair to speculate about her motivations.
Given all that, I don't think our observations of Anita are unfounded. And we ARE cautious.