Ruby,
Again, thank you for sharing part of life with me. You are talking about very personal and deep things and I appreciate that.
Now, here is my response.
Ruby wrote:
I'm not sure how to respond to the above paragraph. I'm unclear if you are saying that in general.....in my life, I hung out with people who were abusive etc., and was therefore led easily into a church org that abused me......or if you saying that once in church, I hung out with the abusive sort etc.
One possibility is that you focused (paid attention to) on this behavior. Can you buy this idea: you can be surrounded by negative abusive people that act generous and positive with you.
What I have divulged above is also "anecdotal evidence". So if I said that some men were sexually abusive, you could also make a case against me.
Can you buy the idea that some women attract the gentle, chivalrous kind men in their lives?
And this says nothing pejorative or bad about women who seem to attract predators. On the contrary, as you describe it, you attracted them because of good inherent traits.
Why is it so terrifying for you to consider that some denominations within Christinaity are legalistic and abusive?
I don’t think it is terrifying. This is my theory. All social groups contain legalistic and abusive people. Maybe, some have them in a greater percentage within that group. And they may be legalistic and abusive about some things in certain circumstances, but not others. Team work is extremely difficult. Get a bunch of people together for any period of time and bad things start to happen. This is going to be true with any people you get together with on a consistent basis.
I liked the sense of belonging that going to church gave me. I had never really experienced that before. It felt great to be a part of something. To be considered part of a family. Not only that, I was part of the only church org. that had the "truth". I was taught that I was "special" as a 1st United Pentecostal. Special because I had true savation.
I want you to forgive in advance for what I am about to say. Isn’t this the same feeling you have now? Don’t you feel a sense of belonging and that you are a part of something. Didn’t you say you love everyone here and consider them your family? And don’t you consider yourself special because now you are in the path to the truth, that a veil has been lifted?
Can you buy the idea that the problem is not the scenery, it is not the stage, not the outside environment?
Well, living by so many church rules........no make-up, no jewelry, no pants, no shorts, no TV....and so on, I was becoming very depressed. I did not feel like a woman anymore. We were taught to wear dresses with lengths below knees....most all the woman wore dresses nearly to the floor. We were also taught to wear dresses that covered our elbows. As if our elbows could incite lust!
Can you think of all the rules that you must follow now. For example, even if you think (very deep down) that a bible story can be a great lesson for children to listen to, you don’t because it is just as any other mythology. (I can’t guess about your answer, it is just an example to illustrate that humans constantly have to follow rules, we are never free from them , and the funny thing is that the more advanced the society we live in , the more regulated we are)
The type of abuse and legalism I am talking about can only be learned in a church. And in my experience, it happens constantly in the UPCI and Charismatic churches.
I’m sorry but I disagree. I will give a perfect example that abuse and legalism is everywhere you have groups.
Right here in this website, the main administrator left. If you read the posts related to him prior to his departure and after, you will see abuse and legalism all over. And you know when all that started? Right after rules of conduct where enacted. Before that time, anarchy was supreme. Once posters had to follow rules, the group dynamic changed dramatically.
Now, someone could argue that it was a small percentage of people, some could argue the other way. I would say that those who focused on it, got a very good look that the abusive and legalistic behavior.
What is a certainty is that the administrator was so fed up with it, that he decided to leave.
This is the problem. We have all these denominations running about......all interpreting the bible differently. All accusing each other of doing things that aren't biblical. The fact is, the bible can be made to say anything you want it to. It's chock full of contradictions.
I don’t think it is full of contradictions. I do believe that there are many contradictory interpretations. It is not the same thing. I definitely agree that we can create interpretations to fit our views and beliefs.
It might be easy to start a new bible based religion. Just pick and choose your verses and build your dogma around it. Then claim you've had some incredible revelation from God, himself, and there you go.
This is true, it can be done, but it won’t hold to the real litmus test.
It would not be too hard to rent a building or buy an old abandoned church. Then advertise using cleverly put together catchy phrases that sound uplifting, and give the promise of changing people's lives through Christ, and people are bound to come. There's always someone looking for answers..looking for something better and new that their current church isn't giving.
Also true.
Anyhow, I can say for a fact that a lot of UPC doctrine is based on twisted scripture, and some is scripture taken out of context, but some is scripture that has been interpreted in a different manner due to the many contradictions that exist in the bible.
Ok, we seem to agree here on most of what you say. I still disagree that the bible is full of contradictions. I will show you what I mean using the passages you cite.
Ok, so lets look at the UPC dogma that I was taught. First of all I learned that salvation only occurred through 1. Repentance; 2. Baptism in Jesus name; 3. Receiving the Holy Spirit baptism as evidenced by speaking in tongues.
They back this is up with the following passages.
Acts 2:1-16
Now, please not that the passage you cite does not explicitly say that is the way salvation occurs. It is a POSSIBLE INTERPRETATION. How do we know if it is a the right interpretation? How do we solve that?
This is a common problem is jurisprudence. Legislators make laws and when they made them they a specific intent. Many laws are straight forward to understand, many are not. So, how does a judge determine what the right interpretation is? Well, there are two mayor criteria:
1. Context/reference
2. literality.
From what you write, I’m sure I don’t have to go into #1. On #2, this is the litmus test in jurisprudence (that I referred to before). If the law is clear and precise about a specific aspect or topic (if it is literal in the law) then that takes precedence over any and every interpretation regarding the same aspect. It is only when #2 cannot be found, then we move to #1. Christians don’t have a Supreme Court that can uphold a particular interpretation, but we certainly can use the same principles, specifically literality.
This is where they believe the bible gives the one, and only, salvation message. They believe repentance is crucial...and most of their churches stress repentance as being a major event where you better cry, wail, and beg "God" to forgive you for all your sins. (They seem to miss that repentance really means to change one's mind and/or turn away from sin.) They believe that baptizing someone in total immersion of water saying "in Jesus name", is the only valid baptism. Anyone who has been baptized with "in the name of the father, son, and Holy spirit" being said over them needs to be rebaptized in Jesus name according to them. Otherwise, that mode of baptism will send them to hell. I'll explain why in a bit. Receiving the Holy Spirit baptism is vital to be saved......and according to them , unless you speak in tongues as evidence, then you did not get it. Once again, not speaking in tongues will send you to hell too.
How is the litmus test applied? It is very easy. If the passage can stand on it’s own in terms of meaning (that it does not require interpretation) and it contradicts a particular interpretation, then the INTERPRETATION is wrong. Yes, the interpretation can contradict the literal passage. The sound conclusion is not that the passages are contradicting one another, it is that the interpretation must be wrong.
Ok, what literal passage contradicts on its own this particular interpretation? Here it is (and please see that the passage does not need a single interpretation or explanation of any kind. It’s stands on its own)
1 Corinthians 12 NIV
Spiritual Gifts
1Now about spiritual gifts, brothers, I do not want you to be ignorant. 2You know that when you were pagans, somehow or other you were influenced and led astray to mute idols. 3Therefore I tell you that no one who is speaking by the Spirit of God says, "Jesus be cursed," and no one can say, "Jesus is Lord," except by the Holy Spirit.
4There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit. 5There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. 6There are different kinds of working, but the same God works all of them in all men.
7Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. 8To one there is given through the Spirit the message of wisdom, to another the message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit, 9to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit, 10to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues,[1] and to still another the interpretation of tongues.[2] 11All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he gives them to each one, just as he determines.
12The body is a unit, though it is made up of many parts; and though all its parts are many, they form one body. So it is with Christ. 13For we were all baptized by[3] one Spirit into one body--whether Jews or Greeks, slave or free--and we were all given the one Spirit to drink.
14Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. 15If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. 16And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. 17If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!" And the head cannot say to the feet, "I don't need you!" 22On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
27Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. 28And in the church God has appointed first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then workers of miracles, also those having gifts of healing, those able to help others, those with gifts of administration, and those speaking in different kinds of tongues. 29Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? 30Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues[4] ? Do all interpret? 31But eagerly desire[5] the greater gifts.
And now I will show you the most excellent way.
So, I had to listen to many sermons about how if you don't give yourself fully to God (speak in tongues) then God might cause something bad to happen to someone you love to get you to do it. I am serious!!
Do you see why the interpretation is fails at the most fundamental level?
I don’t want to get into a biblical debate here. I know you don’t either but this was important for me to say about that subject.