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A Conversation with Ruby

Christian,

I was being discussed behind my back. That you told me I was, does not change that.
True enough. I guess what I mean to say is that any such conversation was not intended to ambush you in anyway. I'll try to remember not to have any personal conversations about you in any way with any one ever from now on.

And I suppose there was a reason why you didn't post about me in the open forum.
Yep - I didn't want to get into an argument with you about certain subjects that I wanted to discuss with Ruby. Subjects that I knew you would wish to argue about if I posted them publicly.

(Ruby wrote) : Loki did send me a PM, but I don't recall him ever saying anything bad or secretive about you.

(Christian wrote) : He told me differently.
I told you differently? I told you that I'd sent 'bad' or 'secretive' informatoin to Ruby? Well, since it's my PM, I'm not breaking any confidentially if I reprint the relevant portion of my PM to you am I?

Here's what I said regarding my PM to Ruby :
By the way, in the interests of full disclosure - I don't want you thinking I'm working behind your back - I also PM'd Ruby yesterday. The main point of my PM to her? Basically, since she was getting into a discussion with you, I wanted to let her know that (a) you're not just an educated christian, but an educated fundamentalist christian (no surprises there); (b) you're relentless in your debating style, so she needs to be prepared for a long haul; and (c) you do care about her, even if she doesn't share you point of view.
Now, which of those three points do you consider to be "secretive" or "bad"? I guess that (a) might be considered 'bad' if you think that 'fundamentalist' is a perjorative. I guess that (c) might be 'secretive' in that I'm offering an opinion on how you might feel.

Now, could I ahve said those above 3 points publicly? Yes, I guess so, but they were made in the context of a longer PM that didn't JUST revolve around you, Christian, and the longer PM certainly contained elements I would not want to discuss publicly.

Anyway, feel free to continue your suspicions...
 
Loki wrote:
True enough. I guess what I mean to say is that any such conversation was not intended to ambush you in anyway. I'll try to remember not to have any personal conversations about you in any way with any one ever from now on.

Oh boy!

Yep - I didn't want to get into an argument with you about certain subjects that I wanted to discuss with Ruby. Subjects that I knew you would wish to argue about if I posted them publicly.

I see.

told you differently? I told you that I'd sent 'bad' or 'secretive' informatoin to Ruby? Well, since it's my PM, I'm not breaking any confidentially if I reprint the relevant portion of my PM to you am I?

Here's what I said regarding my PM to Ruby :


You sent bad information to Ruby about me and it was sent in a secret fashion. I didn't protest because you constantly are characterizing me in a bad light and most times I don't care you do.

Now, which of those three points do you consider to be "secretive" or "bad"?

Why do you have to warn a poster via a private message? Isn't that secretive in nature?

And what is this business of educated Christian? Why the label? Why the fundamentalist label? Have I ever said I'm a fundamentalist? Have I ever agreed with you labeling me?

You know it is a pejorative term in this forum. People constantly make fun of those they label as fundamentalist.

And what is this business that she is going to be in it for the long haul? Is this a neutral comment? Don't I know exactly what you say about me regarding that?

Oh, are you know going to post another "I'm stupid enough to argue with you" followed by the "I'm smart enough"?

Now, could I ahve said those above 3 points publicly? Yes, I guess so, but they were made in the context of a longer PM that didn't JUST revolve around you, Christian, and the longer PM certainly contained elements I would not want to discuss publicly.


Fine.

Anyway, feel free to continue your suspicions...

No, not necessary. Send any PM's lately?
 
Please don't act like a coward

Christian said:
Come on, give me a real response.

Oh, I see. So, if I show you the ad homs, I suppose you are going to say: Oh, yes I see. I understand now.

Or are we going to argue wherther you did or you did not? I say you did, you say I didn't so, are we really going to get anywhere?

Why would you not accept a moderator anyway. If you are right and I'm wrong, that would be more power to you, right?


Is that are real response?

Oh look out, another ad hom coming.


If I am wrong, I can accept correction. What I do not accept is that I am wrong simply because you say I am. You, or anyone else in a similar place, myself included if the roles are reversed, must explain/show why the other person is wrong, not just merely make the claim.

Now it appears that your real reason for not answering me is a perceived loss of power. You don't mind a public debate as long as you perceive the balance of power to be in your favor?

I believe I presented you with fair, informative objections. It seems your response is to take cover behind a moderator. I have no fear of a moderated debate. However, I have no interest in playing games with you. You are very good at incrementally reframing arguments to keep your opponent off balance and feeling out of control. But it appears that the minute you feel out of control you are unwilling to debate any further.

Christian, I was a christian for 35 years. I know the Bible. Hey, I used the Bible to answer you. I walked in your home court. I don't see too many other people doing that with you. If you really have truth that I'm now missing, I'd like to know it. That's partly why I posted to you. So don't run away now. Here's your evangelical opportunity, in the JREF lions' den.
 
Christian,

I can see from you last reply that you would like to me to limit my JREF conversations (to anyone on the planet) to the following rules :

1. If public, then say anything I like about Christian (within the boundaries established by the forum, of course)

2. If private, then say nothing about Christian unless the comment is 'neutral' in every possible way. In particular, I must refrain from expressing ANY opinions about you.

By extension, I assume you would also like me to refrain from any 'non-neutral' comments about you in any private conversation, such as to my wife?

Anyway, I decline the offer to follow these rules. Personal exchanges will remain personal exchanges, and honest opinions will continue to be a part of such conversations.

I admit that I find it somewhat confusing that my characterisation of you as a fundamentalist, determined, caring christian is causing you concern. Which one of those would you like me to change? Oh, I forgot, you don't want me change my opinion, you just don't want me to share my opinion. Oh well...
 
Christian said:
This situation seems completely unreal to me. Going at it with husband and wife in a public forum about the wife is something I would not want to get involved with.

To me, coming here, is mostly for entertainment value. I don't invest much emotionally. (I forget this is not the case for others)

I don't think it is fair that I'm making you invest more than I in this situation.

What!? "I have a personal stake in" arguing with Ruby about this--something like that. You remember that, a few weeks back. That's your level of entertainment value? I don't think so.

The argument is not about my wife. The argument is about ideas! You have been content to unrelentingly argue against her for weeks; maybe you felt that you could really manipulate the arguments with her, and that was entertaining to you.

But you are here now, in the middle of a discussion that you started, at significant emotional cost to Ruby, and now you want to ditch the whole thing because apparently we are taking you too seriously and it's no longer entertaining to you. I thought Christians, at least in theory, believed that they needed to convince, or at least tell, people of the truth so that they would not spend eternity in hell. And this telling in order to rescue the lost was more important than the entertainment value of the process.
 
Skytalker wrote:
Now it appears that your real reason for not answering me is a perceived loss of power. You don't mind a public debate as long as you perceive the balance of power to be in your favor?

You really believe this don't you.

I believe I presented you with fair, informative objections. It seems your response is to take cover behind a moderator. I have no fear of a moderated debate. However, I have no interest in playing games with you.

You are playing a game. It's called " I can spit farther than you can".

You don't want a moderator fine.

You are very good at incrementally reframing arguments to keep your opponent off balance and feeling out of control. But it appears that the minute you feel out of control you are unwilling to debate any further.

So now you, as a formidable opponent, are going to teach me a lesson?

Listen, I already apologized to your wife. I already said I didn't want to debate you over her.

Christian, I was a christian for 35 years. I know the Bible. Hey, I used the Bible to answer you. I walked in your home court. I don't see too many other people doing that with you. If you really have truth that I'm now missing, I'd like to know it. That's partly why I posted to you. So don't run away now. Here's your evangelical opportunity, in the JREF lions' den.

Now, you come and you post this. Now, my ego and flawed human nature does not allow me to back down from a challenge.

Ok, sir you got your wish. I will respond to your original post. And no moderators (well if you curse I can't help them coming in ;) )


The lions den? Run away? Man, the metaphors.

What!? "I have a personal stake in" arguing with Ruby about this--something like that. You remember that, a few weeks back. That's your level of entertainment value? I don't think so.

The argument is not about my wife. The argument is about ideas! You have been content to unrelentingly argue against her for weeks; maybe you felt that you could really manipulate the arguments with her, and that was entertaining to you.

But you are here now, in the middle of a discussion that you started, at significant emotional cost to Ruby, and now you want to ditch the whole thing because apparently we are taking you too seriously and it's no longer entertaining to you. I thought Christians, at least in theory, believed that they needed to convince, or at least tell, people of the truth so that they would not spend eternity in hell. And this telling in order to rescue the lost was more important than the entertainment value of the process.



I wanted to ditch this discussion many times. I told Ruby that. I thanked her for sharing and told her I didn't need any more information. She continued and engaged me (just like any other poster).

There is nothing I can tell you that you have not already heard. This place is not a place for Christians to proselitize.

And what do you think is going to happen?

I''l tell you exactly whats going to happen. I'm going to post, you are going to post, and so on. Until one of us gets tired of posting.

That's all thats going to happen.

Loki wrote:
Christian,

I can see from you last reply that you would like to me to limit my JREF conversations (to anyone on the planet) to the following rules :

1. If public, then say anything I like about Christian (within the boundaries established by the forum, of course)

2. If private, then say nothing about Christian unless the comment is 'neutral' in every possible way. In particular, I must refrain from expressing ANY opinions about you.

By extension, I assume you would also like me to refrain from any 'non-neutral' comments about you in any private conversation, such as to my wife?

Anyway, I decline the offer to follow these rules. Personal exchanges will remain personal exchanges, and honest opinions will continue to be a part of such conversations.

I admit that I find it somewhat confusing that my characterisation of you as a fundamentalist, determined, caring christian is causing you concern. Which one of those would you like me to change? Oh, I forgot, you don't want me change my opinion, you just don't want me to share my opinion. Oh well...


You have the right to post and speak a lot of things Loki. I respect this right.

But you know what? I have exactly the same right. Isn't that something.
 
Skytalker,

And what is this coward business?

Let me deflate this stuff right now.

What can you do to me? Absolutely nothing. What am I suppose to be afraid of?

This is just macho nonsense.
 
Christian said:
I'm sorry this bothers you.

It is more than weird to me. I think it is inappropriate. I don't want to debate your husband over you.

And believe me when I say, man I feel tempted to just go at it, but no, sorry.

Tell you what, I will bow out of this thread for awhile. Then it will just be Skytalker in a debate with you. That way you won't have to feel uncomfortable about a husband and wife debating together....with the husband seeming to defend me.

My husband was very interested in conversing with you according to things you were saying in your posts. He does not think of himself as some great debater or great intellectual giant, (although, I do, and most people around him do.):D
 
Ruby wrote:
Tell you what, I will bow out of this thread for awhile. Then it will just be Skytalker in a debate with you. That way you won't have to feel uncomfortable about a husband and wife debating together....with the husband seeming to defend me.

Ok.

My husband was very interested in conversing with you according to things you were saying in your posts. He does not think of himself as some great debater or great intellectual giant, (although, I do, and most people around him do.)

I hold egalitarian views. I don't consider myself very smart. I'm just a diligent hard worker.

And I don't think intelligence give people an edge (only in IQ tests) I usually score 90 something on them.

But, I do study a lot. So, since there is no time limit on answers, eventually I find the correct answer.

This place equalizes everyone because of that. It levels the playing field for everyone. I like that.

Ok, I will respond to your husband tomorrow.
 
Christian said:
My husband was very interested in conversing with you according to things you were saying in your posts. He does not think of himself as some great debater or great intellectual giant, (although, I do, and most people around him do.)

I hold egalitarian views. I don't consider myself very smart. I'm just a diligent hard worker.

And I don't think intelligence give people an edge (only in IQ tests) I usually score 90 something on them.

But, I do study a lot. So, since there is no time limit on answers, eventually I find the correct answer.

This place equalizes everyone because of that. It levels the playing field for everyone. I like that.

Ok, I will respond to your husband tomorrow. [/B]

Well, I do think you are very smart. I don't think IQ tests are worth much either.

I enjoyed debating with you, even if things got a bit muddled.

Skytalker is really a very nice guy. I hope you guys can reach mutual respect.

Maybe you will want to start a new thread...but that's up to you and Skytalker.

Bye for now,

Ruby
 
Ruby wrote:
Well, I do think you are very smart. I don't think IQ tests are worth much either.

Thank you.

I enjoyed debating with you, even if things got a bit muddled.

I'm glad to hear that.

Skytalker is really a very nice guy. I hope you guys can reach mutual respect.

I'm sure he is a very nice guy. We are off to our pissing (can I say that? sorry if that is not allowed) contest. I know who you will be rooting for.

Maybe you will want to start a new thread...but that's up to you and Skytalker.

Bye for now,

Ruby


That's ok, here is fine.


Skytalker, here we go.

Christian
Legalism is the term used (and particularly in jurisprudence) in the strict INTEPRETATION of the text. It is synonymous with literalist. So someone might be called a legalist if he/she invokes the rule in it’s strictest definition. A legalist could say, that “thou shall not kill” means one can’t kill anything, including a cockroach.

Skytalker wrote:
Then you provided the dictionary.com definition of legalism, viz., "strict conformity to the letter of the law rather than its spirit".

You, of course, have precisely made Ruby's point for her.

No, I did not.

I will explain.

Many churches set up rules to which they strictly adhere, many times even in contradiction of clear scriptural content to the contrary.

Here you present the idea that churches set up strict rules but do not cite exactly where this rule is written as to reference it. (and you add that many contradict each other, which is irrelevant to the point of what is the correct usage of the word legalist.)


Though it has become almost cliche in my experience, I cite as an example the strict official stance against the drinking of alcohol of any kind or quantity by many church denominations, local assemblies, and affiliated educational institutions. This position is held in spite of 1) Psalm 104 which attributes to the Christian God the provision of "wine which makes man's heart glad." (v 15); or 2) Jesus's making wine from water at the wedding in Cana (John 2); or 3) the apostle Paul exhorting Timothy (a pastor) to use a little wine for his health (advice remarkably consistent with today's medical research). Sure the Bible warns against the dangers of too much wine, and the NT flatly prohibits drunkeness, but to turn the prohibition against drunkeness into a prohibition against drinking at all is legalism exactly as defined by dictionary.com.

All of this explanation is irrelevant because you are citing an example of the contradiction between the church’s rules and the Bible. In any case, this would be an example of a clear misinterpretation of this particular church and the Bible.

Turning a prohibition of drunkenness into a prohibition against drinking would not be called legalism, it would be called distortion. (distorting the law is also a common subject in jurisprudence)

Adhering to the letter of the law and not the spirit would be to actually take your eye out or chop your hand off to avoid sinning, for example.

Me
I’m sure they do have strict rules. If they don’t, they wouldn’t function as an organization very well.

How can you say that? How do you know? Are you a Unitarian Universalist? Have you studied that organization or participated in their activities? You flatly contradict, without substantiation, a statement Ruby has made by first hand knowledge. Shame on you. How can you possibly expect to win her or anyone else to your side of the argument when all you say is "you're wrong"? You haven't proven a thing!


I don’t need to study the organization to conclude they have strict rules. All organizations have strict rules. Why shame on me? I can cite a few without having any more knowledge of the organization than a website search. And me knowing this beforehand was not a great feat, not by a long shot, just plain inductive reasoning.

Let me present 3 strict rules:

1. No UU member is allowed to use the NAME and CORPORATE SEAL of the Unitarian Universalist Service Committee, Inc. to promote their particular agenda without the expressed permission of the Committee.
2. No part of the net earnings or receipts of funded property of the Corporation shall inure to the benefit of any officer, private individual, member of the Corporation, employee or substantial contributor
3. and that the Corporation shall not participate in nor intervene in any political campaign on the behalf of any candidate for public office.

From http://www.uusc.org/info/bylaws.html

And take a look at membership:

Membership is open to all persons who support the mission and the programs of the Corporation. Membership in the Corporation shall be for twelve (12) months, with dues payable annually.

So, if people don’t pay, they can’t be members. Oh and they must support the mission and programs of the Corporation. Maybe a Ku Klux Klan sympathizer isn’t welcome.



No, I don't. But you are clearly twisting the clear meaning and intent of Ruby's statements so as to effectively redefine legalism with connotations it simply does not have in this context. That is dishonest debate. And that in spite of her further clarification, which you kindly included in your reply. Read on.


Am I twisting the clear meaning? And here the adhom, you accuse me of dishonest debate. So, if I’m dishonest then my arguments have no merit.

from datanation.com
Attacking the Person
(argumentum ad hominem)

Definition:
The person presenting an argument is attacked instead of the
argument itself. This takes many forms. For example, the
person's character, nationality or religion may be attacked.
Alternatively, it may be pointed out that a person stands to
gain from a favourable outcome. Or, finally, a person may be
attacked by association, or by the company he keeps.


Me
Your use of the word throws me off.

Come on, Christian! You are smarter than that! Are you trying merely to silence Ruby, or do you wish to really convince her of the righteousness of your view and the error of hers?


All these are ad homs. What does my intelligence have to do with the argument, or my righteousness?

If she is using the word incorrectly to make her case, I will have trouble making my case using the same word with a different meaning. (as I clearly pointed out)

(In the evangelical spirit of NT Christianity, I assume you would believe God would have none perish in error, but all come to eternal life through knowledge of the true truth. Perhaps my assumption is wrong.)

This is another ad hom.

from infidels.org
Argumentum ad hominem literally means "argument directed at the man"; there are two varieties.
The first is the abusive form. If you refuse to accept a statement, and justify your refusal by criticizing the person who made the statement, then you are guilty of abusive argumentum ad hominem. For example:
"You claim that atheists can be moral -- yet I happen to know that you abandoned your wife and children."
This is a fallacy because the truth of an assertion doesn't depend on the virtues of the person asserting it. A less blatant argumentum ad hominem is to reject a proposition based on the fact that it was also asserted by some other easily criticized person. For example:
"Therefore we should close down the church? Hitler and Stalin would have agreed with you.

Playing the dumb/confused card is one of your frequently used tactics, evidently intended to confuse your opponent in the debate.

And the hits keep on rolling.

I would not be surprised if this claim were true as you interpret intolerance of Christians. In my experience there are few Christians who know how, and perhaps fewer who are willing, to honestly, rigorously, and thoughtfully present an argument for anything.

It is good that you say “in my experience”, because I know many Christian who can. That’s the problem with generalizations and labeling. People can or can’t present good argumentation based on religious affiliation. But, I will stand corrected if you can back up this claim. And can you specify if you only mean correlation or are you extending it to causation.

James Randi has spent years exposing weak, sloppy thinking, religious charletans, frauds, and other such ilk. He can hardly be expected to look favorably on the feeble, emotional, and frequently fear-mongering presentations of so-called Christians.

Do I understand this as your pejorative opinion of all Christians, or are you just referring to those who claim to be but are not “real Christians”?

This examply is a case of the common either-or fallicy, and makes no allowance for the shades in between.

First of all, this is not a fallacy. I’m presenting a premise and I’m constructing an argument based on that premise then presenting a conclusion based on that. That is perfectly logical. If you want to attack the logic, attack the conclusion or how the logic is flawed (how the conclusion does not follow from the logic). You can’t attack the premise for the logic, it is premise. Here, let me give you the syllogism again:

Premise : You are not responsible for your actions (crimes)
Premise : People that are responsible for their actions (crimes) are punished.
(Therefore,) Conclusion: you are not punished for you actions (crimes)

Technically, yes, you might say that. But I ask you, what good or use is having a choice if you a) don't know you have it, or b) don't have any idea how to exercise that choice? Between these two conditions and really not having a choice there is no functional difference, unless (and this is key) some outside agent acts to reveal that a choice does exist and further, how to exercise that choice.

Ah, but you must show you don’t know you have it or don’t have any idea how to exercise it. The burden is not on me to disprove your “very hard to believe” claim.

So the mindset fostered and promoted, explicitly or implicitly, by the Christian church in Ruby's experience nurtured the "no choice" option for all practical purposes. It may have been a misrepresentation based on misunderstanding of Christian truth, but it a) required leaving the church in order to perceive the deception or misunderstanding, and b) leaves another vacancy of understanding as to how to reintegrate the newly found (if long existing) freedom(s) with a "correct" view of Christianity.

This is an extraordinary claim.

It was Christianity which seemed heretofore to have been responsible for denying or preventing the discovering of that freedom. My opinion is that if this clarity of reintegration does exist, you have yet to effectively demonstrate that it does. If you believe that it does, I challenge you to get on and show it.

The opposite is true. You are making an extraordinary claim. You are saying she was, for all intent and purposes, brainwashed and lost all volition. This happened just from attending church.
All evidence I know of, require much much more than that to accomplish what you are describing. It goes against all that is common knowledge. Even in the extreme circumstances, society doesn’t accept this. I cite the Patty Hearst case.
So, it is you who has the burden of proof, not I.


So now we know your opinion. So what?! What evidence, what proof, what reason can you proffer to convince Ruby, or anyone else, that your opinion is better or more valid that anyone else's?

That depends on the opinion I’m presenting. In this case, your opinion is as valid as mine.

Of course Christianity didn't cause the fears, but it didn't resolve them either. Neither its proclaimed means of dealing with them (prayer and confession, to name two) nor its proscriptions against the fear ("...but the fearful and unbelieving...shall have their part in the lake of fire..." Rev 21:8) did anything to ameliorate the fear. However, by getting away from all the "shoulds", it became possible to face the fears head on and begin to overcome them.

ok.

It's useless to argue that this is a case where God's answer was that the suffering was for some higher purpose or other nonsense like that. Every time that someone came to Jesus for healing during his human incarnation, He healed that person. And the Bible is simply bursting with references to God being our healer for physical as well as spiritual ills. And since the medical knowledge now exists to effectively deal with many if not all of my wife's afflictions, how could it possibly make sense for God to prevent us from exposure to that knowledge. That's not Jehovah's Witnesses denying blood transfusions to save a life (which human courts have condemned), that's Jehovah Himself preventing healing.

I hear you.

No, the rules are not the problem. The problem is the inaneness of the rules, the pettiness, the commitment to rules themselves without consideration for context or motivation. Ruby effectively made this point in the portion of her post for which the above quote from you is your reply. As smart as you seem to be, you must realize that, yet you seem unwilling to admit it.
You are still missing the point. The rules did not create her problem.

Me
The following of rules must come from a place of conviction, not legalism right? Not cursing but calling black people the N word, is hypocrisy. I know you agree with me on this.

Christian!! Don't do this! Now you want to adopt precisely the use of legalism that Ruby has been employing all along and which you have previously tried to deny her.

No, no. Not true. I’m using my terminology.

Now that it is convenient for your purposes, you adopt a different shade of meaning. This is intellectual dishonesty.

Hey, that you misunderstand is not my fault.

Who says cursing is wrong? Why is it wrong? Assume for the sake of argument that I don't know. I bet you can't convincingly defend why it's wrong to curse. God, and many of His key people in the Bible, cursed things and people. Anyway, very often what Christian culture has identified as cursing is in reality merely vulgarity. And there is a real difference.

Why is cursing wrong? Let me count the ways.
1. It is illegal in public where children are present
2. It shows a lack of respect for those around you (it is antisocial behavior)
3. It teaches children that there are no verbal boundaries, limits.
4. It is hurtful to those who have to endure it.

And I hope you don’t ask me why boundaries and limits are good for children.

So what. The same kind of compelling results can be seen in almost every case where diligent, usually passionate, people dare to risk greatly.

Actually, this is completely wrong. Most diligent, passionate people who take risks fail. Most films bomb, most books fail, most startup businesses go under. There are far more failures than successes. Far more.

This way of action is the stuff from which legends grow. And it is found in people all over the world regardless of religion or creed. Examples are available from business, education, military endeavors, and even the relative anonymity of thousands of individual lives.

Really? From this logic, only Gibson has attempted to make a Jesus film. Most people fail at their endeavors. For every successful actor, there are tens of thousand who were as talented who never made it. In the materialist-atheist view, success is a matter of chance, mathematical probabilities, it is a numbers game. Someone is going to win the lottery.

The principles work. They are universally admired, at least in the long run, with or without specific reference to the Christian God.

Tell that to the tons of millions of people who where born in Africa and not the US. Tell them that in the long run, if they are diligent, passionate and take great risks they will succeed. Or is the universality only related to admiration?

Well, that's it for now. It's 11:22 pm, and I want to be at work at 8:00 am. Good night.
 
Delayed response

Christian,

I've not forgotten or ignored you. I will answer you this week. A lot of work and two young children keep me busy.

Skytalker
 

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