What to do with prostitutes

Because I think that people should look out for each others interests. I cannot say it is good for you to put your daughter out there while hoping and praying that mine does not.

But that's not the situation at all. I'm not saying it's okay for your daughter to become a prostitute but not mine, I'm just saying I don't want to have sex with my own daughter. Honestly, I just don't understand why such a simple idea seems so hard for you to grasp.

It is as bad for me to do your daughter as to do my own if I have any respect for you.

What? Why? Is it bad for me to "do" my wife? After all, she's somebody's daughter too...
 
But that's not the situation at all. I'm not saying it's okay for your daughter to become a prostitute but not mine, I'm just saying I don't want to have sex with my own daughter. Honestly, I just don't understand why such a simple idea seems so hard for you to grasp.



What? Why? Is it bad for me to "do" my wife? After all, she's some body's daughter too...

Neither daughter should be prostitutes.
If this is not apparent, then what can I say.
If people cannot protect each other or feel for each other then what can I say.
If people use double standards what can I say.

How can a man say it is wrong to have his own daughter be a prostitute while going out in search of one for himself.

If we reduce the value of human life then how low will we go.
At one time it was to slavery, why not return to that time then we wont even have to try to protect our young we will be too busy using them. Who will care.


Regards
DL
 
Because the only categories he seems to know are prostitutes, people who were abused as children, and family members. Unfortunately, for him, these are all the same people.

Why would anybody want to discuss prostitutes that are in it voluntarily.
Big deal. They want money and do not consider prostitution as evil. End of discussion.

Lets go where we might be helpful.

Regards
DL
 
Neither daughter should be prostitutes.
If this is not apparent, then what can I say.

It's not apparent. Somebody is going to be a prostitute, history has shown us that. Seriously, it's called "the oldest profession" for a reason. It's not something we can eliminate; nor, in my opinion, should we try to -- it won't work.

How can a man say it is wrong to have his own daughter be a prostitute while going out in search of one for himself.

In the bizarre hypothetical situation that my daughter told me she wanted to be a prostitute, I wouldn't think it was "wrong." I might think it was stupid, and definitely dangerous in today's society, and I'd probably think it was a waste of her talents (though who knows, maybe my hypothetical daughter is a total airhead), but I think the problems with prostitution are practical and not ethical.

All of which has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that I wouldn't want to have sex with my daughter even if she were a prostitute and I were in the market for one.

If we reduce the value of human life then how low will we go.

So prostitutes aren't people now?

I just don't understand your position. You seem to be starting with the assumption that prostitution is inherently bad because...well, I don't know why. Because a higher-than-average number of abused/addicted/poor people become prostitutes, I suppose, and so you think the link must go both ways.

I disagree with that assumption. Prostitutes are a necessary part of any society. Seriously. They're everywhere, in every culture. The demand for them is undeniable. It would be far better if their business were legalized and legitimized and not pushed to the margins of society where criminals can take control of them.
 
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You seem to think that most prostitutes like their job. You also do not like my statistics.
How about giving us some statistics on your unlikely premise.


1. I did not say that most prostitutes like their job. I said that hearing the opinions of a prostitute might be an important way to learn what types of thoughts prostitutes have about their childhood and their profession.

2. I did not say that I did not like your statistics. Where you've given statistics (50% of men are abusers, for example), I've asked what your source was. Where you've given no statistics except anecdotal evidence, I've asked why we should believe your anecdotes represent a significant portion of the population.

3. I did not state a premise. I certainly did not state an unlikely premise. As such, I can't produce statistics because I've stated no fact that requires support. What I have done, however, is ask you to provide support. You have stated "facts" and you have done so without explaining your basis.
 
Neither daughter should be prostitutes.
If this is not apparent, then what can I say.


So you're argument goes:

1. Prostitution is bad.
2. This is apparent.
3. Therefore, anyone who thinks prostitution is not bad is wrong.

I think your reasoning might need a little tightening up.
 
I've been following this thread, and I'll be darned if I can detect a point to it.

We don't want our daughters to be prostitutes. OK, got it. I don't even disagree, I don't want my daughter to be a prostitute, either. OTOH, I don't want my daughter to be a fry chef at McDonalds, either, so I'm not sure what I want my daughter to be has to do with anything.

As for stuff like abuse and whatnot, as I said previously, prostitution is a non-surprising symptom of it, not a cause.

So what's the point of all this?
 
Actually, that's the reason I brought it up. I know a prostitute in Nevada (high class, but not legal), and she thinks it's insulting and demeaning when people say she's "selling her body." That makes it sound like all she does is lie there with a glassy look, when in fact what she's doing is providing a service that men want. Most men don't just want to rent the use of a bodily orifice; they want company, affection, and the impression that it was "good for her too."

My friend would say this, too. She's had parties that were just conversation, or just cuddling. She's been taken on out-dates in which she was a companion, or maybe just arm-candy, but no sex.

I believe, however, she got her start as a "lot-lizard." I may be mistaken, though, so I'd have to ask.
 
I believe, however, she got her start as a "lot-lizard." I may be mistaken, though, so I'd have to ask.

Even then I'm sure there's a lot more to it than just spreading your legs and suppressing a yawn until it's over. I'm sure it's not effortless work, and even if it's strictly physical, it's still a service, not a commodity.
 
OK.

How about the young Filipino virgin children going to the highest bidder.
Do they not need our help.

Regards
DL

Ok, so you're not talking about prostitution, then. You're talking about child sex slavery - which is a very different ball of wax.
 
It's not apparent. Somebody is going to be a prostitute, history has shown us that. Seriously, it's called "the oldest profession" for a reason. It's not something we can eliminate; nor, in my opinion, should we try to -- it won't work.



In the bizarre hypothetical situation that my daughter told me she wanted to be a prostitute, I wouldn't think it was "wrong." I might think it was stupid, and definitely dangerous in today's society, and I'd probably think it was a waste of her talents (though who knows, maybe my hypothetical daughter is a total airhead), but I think the problems with prostitution are practical and not ethical.

All of which has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that I wouldn't want to have sex with my daughter even if she were a prostitute and I were in the market for one.



So prostitutes aren't people now?

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How the hell do you get that from anything I wrote? Idiot.

I just don't understand your position. You seem to be starting with the assumption that prostitution is inherently bad because...well, I don't know why. Because a higher-than-average number of abused/addicted/poor people become prostitutes, I suppose, and so you think the link must go both ways.

I disagree with that assumption. Prostitutes are a necessary part of any society. Seriously. They're everywhere, in every culture. The demand for them is undeniable. It would be far better if their business were legalized and legitimized and not pushed to the margins of society where criminals can take control of them.

If they are as necessary as you say it would be because of a weakness in men.
Are men so week as to not even attempt to strengthen their character?
Sounds like what you are saying.

The oldest professions were hunting and gathering. Prostitution came later.

So let us all stay week and let our dicks decide on our morality. No wonder women have lost respect for us. We have lost respect for ourselves.

Regards
DL
 
If they are as necessary as you say it would be because of a weakness in men.

Well, I suppose you could look at it that way, but from my perspective the cause is largely biological. A lot of men are simply wired to want to #### anything that moves. Is that a weakness? Maybe, I guess. But as long as they're careful and don't force themselves on anyone, I have no problem with people ####ing as much as they want. In fact, I'll go out on a limb and say the world would be a better place if there were more ####ing going on.

And I'm still waiting to hear what's so bad about exchanging sex for money anyway. If both parties are happy with the deal, what's the problem? Especially since many aspects of modern dating are basically "prostitution lite" anyway...

The oldest professions were hunting and gathering. Prostitution came later.

Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if prostitution predated hunting at least -- we've seen forms of prostitution among other primates, including baboons, gibbons, and various monkeys. It's possible that prostitution goes back millions of years, long before any human ancestors were hunting.

So let us all stay week and let our dicks decide on our morality.

Whoa, hang on. You haven't made a moral argument against prostitution at all, as far as I can tell. All you've done is point out some anecdotes that have almost nothing to do with prostitution, and draw some dubious conclusions. And even if we bought those, it would just mean that prostitution is bad, not wrong. A subtle distinction, maybe, but it's the difference between circumstantial wrong and moral wrong.

No wonder women have lost respect for us. We have lost respect for ourselves.

I really don't know what this means. I don't think there's any shortage of respect on either side of the gender line. Certainly no more than there ever was. In Western society, this is arguably the most enlightened period in history as far as gender and sexuality are concerned.
 
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Ok, so you're not talking about prostitution, then. You're talking about child sex slavery - which is a very different ball of wax.

Be it a pimp or be it a father taking the dollars does she really split hairs as to what she will be called.
I may have generalized too much. I just don't see any difference.
Exploitation by any other name is still exploitation.

Regards
DL
 
Be it a pimp or be it a father taking the dollars does she really split hairs as to what she will be called.
I may have generalized too much. I just don't see any difference.
Exploitation by any other name is still exploitation.

Regards
DL

I am a lawyer. I use my ability to reason, to gather and assess evidence and to argue eloquently (I hope) for the benefit of my clients, whether or not I personally believe in their causes. I get paid for this. Nobody is forcing me to work as a lawyer. Am I being exploited?

My friend is an engineer. She uses her facility with math, her ability to design buildings and other abilities of which I know little for the benefit of her clients, whether she likes the buildings or not. She gets paid for this. Nobody is forcing her to be an engineer. Is she being exploited?

Another friend is a professional hockey player*. He uses his ability to stickhandle, to shoot a puck and bodycheck to entertain people, to the benefit of his employer, whether or not he enjoys playing hockey. He gets paid for this. Nobody is forcing him to be a hockey player. Is he being exploited?

Compare us to an adult prostitute. She (I will assume female as you seem to be doing so) uses her ability to give sexual pleasure and to simulate her own sexual desire and pleasure for the benefit of her clients, whether or not she is personally attracted to them. She gets paid for this. Assuming nobody is actually forcing her to work as a prostitute (as others have noted repeatedly, this is an entirely different question), is she being exploited?

You have an annoying habit of confusing issues with one another. Pick an issue and stick to it. You say that exploitation is bad. It certainly is a word with negative connotations. Does that automatically translate into prostitution being wrong? Only if you can show that all prostitution is exploitation. And that will depend on how you define exploitation - and be careful when you draw your definition that you don't capture the lawyer, the engineer and the professional athlete.

*Not really. But I do have a friend who played in the Olympics for Canada's women's hockey team.
 
Compare us to an adult prostitute. She (I will assume female as you seem to be doing so) uses her ability to give sexual pleasure and to simulate her own sexual desire and pleasure for the benefit of her clients, whether or not she is personally attracted to them. She gets paid for this. Assuming nobody is actually forcing her to work as a prostitute (as others have noted repeatedly, this is an entirely different question), is she being exploited?


This brings up an interesting point, why assume that the prostitute in question is female? This report from the National Criminal Justice Reference Service seems to imply that the juvenile prostitution problem is not at all just an issue affecting females. In particular, please reference the page entitled Variation in the Prostitution of Juveniles. On a separate page, they discuss what may have led to the numbers reported, and where bias may have sweked the results. However, it is still quite a bit different than I was expecting.
 
This is just might makes right. Their actions where moral but became immoral when others could enforce it.

No, you're not paying attention.

There is no such thing as an 'absolute moral'. There is no such thing as absolute right and wrong. Morality is always relative, and always defined by the prevalent and predominant culture in any given area. Yes, might helps by providing enforcement of morality, but it is not the only way that morality is reenforced.

It was an aboriginal man who married a young girl and then raped her when she refused him sex. SO he raped her. In his culture this was accepted, so he really shouldn't have been punished because he was not aware of Australian law, and so had no way of knowing that raping a young girl was wrong.

Ah. I don't know how much exposure aboriginals have to the Australian culture, so I'm going to have to guess that, in general, aborigines are largely unaware of the prevailing culture of Australia itself. But, no, within context of his culture, what he did was right. In context of OUR culture, it was wrong. In context of Australian culture, I assume it was wrong. But was he enmeshed in that culture, or was that culture largely unavailable to him?

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He got one month in prison precisely because of your position here. How can he be punished for something that is condoned by his society?

That sounds a fair judgement to me. Since he was unaware of the greater cultural situation, his punishment was soft enough to serve as education for him. Obviously, the predominant society - the non-native Australian society - has decided that the aboriginal practice of raping unwilling wives is wrong, and is taking steps to change the subordinate culture appropriately.

Sounds good... what's the problem?

You say it is because his society is inside a larger one, but that is just the result of conquest, by that rational many of the so called war crimes are moral in WWII because they where in conquered territory.

And if those territories remained conquered, AND there were no global society to supercede the conquering society - then, yes. Absolutely.

Fortunately, that's not the situation.

The only reason war crimes ARE considered immoral is because we DO have a larger predominant culture that superimposes over local cultures, and THAT culture defines certain crimes as immoral. If the global community didn't exist, there'd be no punishment for 'war crimes'.

Consider, for example, the many very harsh, terrible things done to Native Americans in our past - and there haven't been tribunals assembled to seek reparations for war crimes in our culture. Why? Because the predominant culture here did not see the extermination of entire tribes of Native Americans to be immoral. And, frankly, the world doesn't care much about the Native Americans any more, so that's not likely to change either.

No they are wrong

By whose standards? By what context?

[qutoe]Yes it is. There is nothing that is not permissible just as long as it is legal in your society.[/quote]

As long as it is permissible within the predominant culture under which you live.

Because some activities are wrong, period.

Like what? Can you name any specific activity that never, ever, under any possible circumstances or cultural states, has been considered ok?

This is a great way to be an apologist for say the inquisition, nothing immoral or wrong happened, because society sanctioned the torture and burnings, so there is no need to apologize or consider that something bad happened.

...except for the greater global culture under which we all exist.

As it is, at the time and in those places, there was nothing immoral happening. Only in context of our modern culture do we see the Inquisition as wrong - and not everyone today does, by the way. There are those who think the torturing and murdering of infidels and blasphemers is a GOOD thing, and who long for a modern Inquisition.

But the prevailing, predominant culture of the Global Community considers religious persecution to be wrong.

I am not arguing for static morality, you have not asked me at all what I would base a moral system on, and that is moral philosophy backed up testing to make sure that you are not making unsupported assumptions, like say about the superiority of men.

Actually, you are. You are claiming that some things are 'just plain wrong', without offering evidence as to why. You are arguing for absolute morality, which by definition is also stagnant morality.

Consider what started our argument in the first place, was that you were bothered because age of consent laws differ from state to state. You would have age of consent laws be universal, it seems - in other words, static.

You are the one who would not view a static morality as bad because there is no absolute morality so you can not view a moral structure that say treats women as property and burns all homosexuals as any worse than one that does not do these things.

What? That made no sense. My entire point is that morality is not static, that it is dynamic and cultural-specific.

If the overarching culture of the global community thought women should be property and homosexuals should be burned, then those would be moral actions. Indeed, some think these opinions are VERY moral actions, and that treating women above their stations (as equals) and not murdering homosexuals is immoral.

But - to use a better phrase - there is a metacultural taboo against treating women as property, that is growing and spreading across the globe; and a similar taboo against mistreating gays is also spreading.

As to one being worse than or better than another - I think that's an almost impossible statement to make without referring to some moral framework. IS a society that treats women as property better than one that does not? In the USA today, no. In a strictly conservative Islamic or early Catholic society, yes, it's far better.

But there's no absolute framework to view these issues from. You ALWAYS have to define your framework when discussing issues of morality.

Is it better, economically, to own women? (I don't know, but I'd guess not) Is it better psychologically? As regards population control? Family discipline? Advancement of human knowledge?

Different frameworks, different answers.

It is my personal opinion that women are superior to men, and that men should count themselves lucky to not be the property of women; likewise, it is my opinion that no one's sexual orientation (as long as it's between consenting adults, regardless of number, race, or gender) should ever be an issue for anyone. But that's within my personal beliefs, which have nothing to do with morality.

The culture in which I exist counts men and women, gay, straight, bi, transgender, etc. as all equal. The metaculture of Ohio has less respect for equality based on sexual preference, but the prevailing metaculture of the United States is growing towards considering sexual-orientation equality to be moral. Globally, I'd venture to say that the metaculture is similarly warming to treating all sexual orientations as equal. So, of course, I feel that doing so is a good thing, since this is the culture in which I live - to several levels.

So as they are equal why try to change it?

Recall also that cultures exist that are not embodied in law and government. After all, the lessons we've learned regarding government is that it is preferable for the government to answer to the people, rather than the people answering to the government. So if the social and cultural morality should change and come into conflict against the prevailing legal morality, then that legal morality is likely to change - though over time, of course.

Moral systems are never either equal nor comparably better or worse than one another, in absolute terms... you can only compare them by first applying another moral framework over them.

Hence, morality remains, as always, relative.

Yes, in our current culture, I agree that some things are wrong. Incest, rape, sexually abusing children, sex with animals, murder, torture... but I also am willing to recognize that these things are wrong within our cultural system, and that other cultural systems may disagree.

I think part of the problem is that you are unwilling to step out of your own framework for even an instant to look at the situation. Are you willing and able to step out of your current system of beliefs and morals, and step into an alien system for a moment, to consider what would then be right or wrong?

Since this started with a discussion about teenage girls, let's start there. The current situation is that teenage girls are generally considered taboo as objects of sexual desire, though there is much grey area to be explored on the subject. Now step out from this framework and into a different one - say, one where the population is only a few hundred people, and health care is almost non-existent; where a person's lifespan may be no more than four decades, and two-thirds of babies never survive to reach puberty.

Does a teenage girl become more appropriate as an object of sexual desire? Of course. Old enough to breed, old enough to help ensure the survival of her tribe.

On the other hand, in an overpopulated society, where survival and success is measured by gaining an excellent education, where lifespans are expanded, and where taking time to have a child as a teenager might also mean losing many opportunities for education and career, the teenage girl becomes less appropriate as an object of sexual desire.

In theory, we could even generate a cultural condition in which sexual activity with anyone under 21 would be strictly taboo, if we create the right conditions.

Yes, we could consider it apologetics, and I agree it would be a terrible stretch to come up with a social/cultural environment where, say, executing newborn boys six weeks after birth is right. But the fact is, it is possible, and goes to show that morality is a dynamic and relative condition.

Now, with the growing and maturing global culture we have today, many taboos are becoming globally predominant. Though these moral codes aren't by any means absolute, they can be considered to be universal. Yet if the global society collapses, those universal morals will fade and vanish once again.
 
But this isn't relativism, relativism is the idea that arresting you for not wearing a shirt and permitting you to not wear a shirt are equal in terms of morality.

There is nothing fundamentaly wrong with say Iran when it publicly exicutes homosexuals because society is in favor of it. That is the relativism that is being promoted here.


Yes, because there is nothing fundamentally wrong.

Right and wrong are purely human creations, and are always defined by culture.
 
My Franglais must get in my way sometimes.
My point was for those with a cavalier position on prostitution.

Some say they would not care if their off spring were in the trade.
I am asking if they would then use their own offspring for gratification.
When I ask this they usually reword their replies.

Regards
DL

That makes no sense. Approving of prostitution does not lead to approving to incest.

There are several professions which are inappropriate for a family member to be a client/patient. Heck, even in retail, the company my wife works for forbids a family member to sell to another family member.

Other more reasonable examples include: medical care, psychological care, social services, and investment services.

Legal government-regulated prostitution is far preferable to a situation in which prostitution is illegal, simply because it will always exist anyway. And if a person wants to sell their sexual services, then who are we to intervene and deny them that right?

Why is sex the one thing we can give away freely, but not sell?
 
Be it a pimp or be it a father taking the dollars does she really split hairs as to what she will be called.
I may have generalized too much. I just don't see any difference.
Exploitation by any other name is still exploitation.

Regards
DL

Idiotic. Not to mention insulting to the guys and girls out there who don't subscribe to your version of 'morality'. How in the world is it just 'splitting hairs' to point out the difference between an 8 year old girl forced into sexual slavery by an adult and an of-age woman who chooses to have sex for money for any number of different reasons? Are you even awake when you make these posts?

And when did we start bringing pimps into this? I think all your ridiculous 'outrage' stems from your complete lack of information on the subject. Try educating yourself a bit so you can speak on some specifics. Because I'm sure there are even a few points we would agree on, but not while you've got them wrapped up in this giant blanket of ignorance and bigotry.
 
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