That's not the choice. The Democrats are simply not hard core ideologues nor do the ideologues hold disproportionate sway to the Democratic side. The choice is between fascism and being slightly more like Europe.
No, no it is not.
How democracies actually die is disengagement from government and distrust of institutions by the populace often enable by appeasement of radicals, among other factors. Since only one side is actually in any meaningful way behaving radically here and now, the idea that one must cut between them is preposterous. Doing that would only lead to more distrust as the will of the people is again denied to appease the minority who are 'playing the ref' with their nonsense.
Remember that the dems already compromised with the GOP on the budget. This crisis includes the GOP already having gone back on their deal. Rewarding them with even more compromise is rewarding bad behavior and bad governing. Don't reward them if you really worry about dictatorship.