I don't know what you mean about "not rigidly so". Part of the reason that these are decadent philosophies is that they are focused on the individual. Because there are a small number of masculine women, we need to deconstruct gender roles? Because there are a small number of males who want to be women, we need to deconstruct gender categories? This is building igloos in the Sahara stuff that you only do in times of incredible abundance and security.
Again, you seem to be looking at this like a logician, trying to construct a rational society based on some abstract idea of individual fairness and liberty.
As Leumas points out, it has only been a handful of decades since womens’ opportunities were severely limited due to broad assumptions and cultural momentum about what women were supposed to do and what they were capable of. To you, it seems, changing this was all downside, because it was part of culture changing to the point we are at now where raising kids has a lot more basic hurdles like how to take care of the lil tyke when we are a two person household and we both have to go to work. To you, it would be better if we had never let that genie out of the bottle, because it seems you want to operate on a rose colored glasses & numbers game. Many women were happy that way and the rest were stuck, and among the stuck, those who were abjectly miserable were a perfectly acceptable sacrifice to the smooth running of the system for the people it worked well for. (And a few really bullheaded women made their own way anyway so anyone who didn’t just didn’t try hard enough or something.)
But one of the human nature things is also empathy, and when the happy women learn about the unhappy ones, the beaten ones, etc, who are constrained into their situations by those prewar, pre-genie assumptions, they feel like changing the system even if it works ok for them.
(But it seems to me that wishing we were still in the women-can’t-have-bank-accounts era ignores the idea that we as a society could find ways to make having kids attractive again. After all most people do actually want to do this, so talk to them, do studies, figure out exactly why the ones who aren’t doing it aren’t doing it and address those issues.)
Again, it’s been such a staggeringly short time since all this began to change that I’m not shocked it’s all still shaking out, that some things go too far and other things not far enough. But you did miss a third basic assumption about humans. Basically good, basically bad? You forgot “everyone has the potential for both,” which is observably drastically true. But if you want to numbers game it because the big part of the curve is the only important one? When we’re looking one another in the eye we are basically all altruistic until we are starving to actual death. Sure some of us aren’t but like you said if it’s only 2.5 percent then it would be foolish to construct society as if they existed at all.
Anyway as far as what I actually think. I think it’s foolish to construct society to expect women to be as physically strong as men. I think it’s also foolish to construct society to ignore it when women are as physically strong as men, and conversely to ignore it when men are not as physically strong as the mean. It can simultaneously be dumb to try to train all girls to be able to do 50 pull-ups and to tell the one girl who can already do 25 pull-ups not to bother trying to train. And it can also simultaneously be dumb not to try to train all the guys to be able to do 50 pull-ups and to keep on riding the ass of the one guy who can’t even do one.
I can buy the idea that you don’t build all of society expecting everyone to be an outlier. But I’m just not even slightly sold on the idea that it actually benefits society to tell outliers they might as well just **** off.