Then radio is a poor medium to work with. Signal strength varies as the inverse square of the distance, meaning that it gets much, much harder to detect signals beyond a few hundred light years, unless they were aimed specifically at us -- and why would they be? No one that far away could possibly know we're here yet.
Ah. So you have anything better than radio to suggest? Something that performs better than the inverse square law? I'm sure the varied psi seekers would like to hear about it.
The point in using a directed beacon (i.e. a telescope) is that you direct the power you're sending out towards an interesting spot. With enough beacons (or an equivalent of the ATA) a civilization can broadcast only towards other stars, rather than empty space. A lot fewer targets then.
Pick a likely star - we are sticking to sun-like ones so far, and there you go.
A problem I have with your objection is that you seem to be saying, in effect: "others will only look if they are sure to find us, and we won't look unless we are sure to find them". So no one ever looks. By the same principle, you should never do reasearch unless you are sure to find what you're after - which defeats the purpose in my view.
SETI also assumes that other civilizations communicate the same way we do. If they never used broadcast radio, we'd never find them. Or if, like us, they only broadcast a recognizable signal for a handful of decades before moving on to higher-tech alternatives, then the window for finding them becomes vanishingly small.
We are doing optical searches too, if that is what you're worried about. Our broadcast signals are onyl really detectable about 50 light years away, which reinforces a basic statement: for SETI to work, both sides need to try for contact. Emission and reception. And if the emitters *are* trying to be found, why wouldn't they use detectable beacons?
Not when our ability to detect signals from that far away is nonexistent. SETI only makes sense when we have the capability to search an area in which the probability of finding intelligent life that is trying to communicate is significant. We just don't have the technology to do that yet. Practically speaking, a thousand light years is about it for now; that's our own backyard in our own corner of our own neighborhood of this one galaxy. Hardly reason for optimism.
Jeremy