Ynot, "relative to" means pretty much: how would it look to someone sitting in that point?
A train is stationary relative to itself, pretty much just means that to somebody on the train it doesn't look like train is moving. It looks like the scenery outside is moving.
Even if you want to talk about yourself relative to yourself... sit still on the bus, and, well, look at yourself. Does it look like your body is getting any farther or closer? No. Although to someone outside it looks like you're zipping past them. when _you_ look at yourself, you're just sitting there. That's really the layman version of "relative to itself."
Now let's take two guys in cars, playing the ancient game of chicken. They're moving towards each other at 100 miles per hour each. Now to each of them, it looks like he's sitting still, and the other one is coming at him at 200 mph.
The gist of it is that the maths is the same. If they start at a mile from each other, they'll collide in the same 0.005 hours ( = 0.3 minutes = 18 seconds) either way. You could calculate relative to the point in the middle, and each does half the distance at 100 km/h. Or you can calculate relative to one of them, and the other is coming at 200 mph and doing the full distance. It's still 18 seconds either way.
Now you could argue that only the former is the real thing, and the latter is "let's pretend". Actually both are "let's pretend". The former pretends that that point in the middle of the road is stationary, but in reality it's moving too, because it rotates around the centre of the Earth, which in turn revolves around the sun, which in turn orbits the centre of the galaxy, etc.
That's really all there is to it. It's doing it all from the point of view of someone sitting in the point you chose at reference.
Also note that so far we've not actually done any relativity. All this is actually just classic mechanics. There too you can put your reference point wherever you want it.