For some definitions of "depression" and "perspective", which definitions are broad enough as to approach meaninglessness.'Depression' is lack of perspective. There is no two ways about that fact!
I suspect that a theoretical view has influenced your interpretation of any data, if your statement is indeed based on any data at all.Denial of one's truth is depression. Its a simple progression that we all have in common.
The sympton.
The guilt and shame.
The fear.
The denial.
Oh, really?Here is some psychiatry applicable to all.
For extremely broad definitions of "hurt" and "weaknesses".Your parents hurt you, passed on their weaknesses to you.
Or not.You resent that. You want to be free from their(your parents) pain and weakness.
You find you cant break away. You wonder why. The answer is simple. The patterns of your parents were passed unto you as a babe. Its part of you.
You would do well to acknowledge the theorists who have influenced your thinking. Your readers would be helped if you included links. I am guessing a strong influence of "object relations theory", but I could be wrong.All you can do is accept it and move on working with what you have.
You can forgive your parents. As you can forgive everyone who ever hurt you.
You can ask forgiveness of all those you have hurt.
If you do those things , forgiving and asking forgiveness you will get a lot of emotional balance.
Another thing yopu can do is confess. To someone fit to take it ( who gives a rats ...). Tell All YOUR CRIMES. To someone.
These exercises will result in new perspective. Then what? Well thats where counselling comes in. You have no clue how to live with your knowledge , how to be normal. Get a counsellor who can help keep you on track and guide you through this 'normalcy' that is foreign to you.
If you can begin to forgive and ask and 'fess up to someone your crimes then you have come a long way baby. But go one step more, try to build a functional life.
Whats functional? Paying taxes? Uh unhh! Thats just one component.
Functional is working, doing duty and playing ( getting joy for joys sake).
All of those on a regular basis and for me playing is the most important.
Those functional things involve contact with and relating to other people.
Please consider--what you are saying here is not objective truth, but one (very theoretically biased) view. You would do yourself a favor to critically and skeptically examine these notions. I think you will find quite a lot of evidence that does not pigeonhole nicely into your view. You may even be forced to change your mind...