As I understand it, the plan is for there to be a permanent refuelling station orbiting the Moon.
Here's how I believe it's supposed to go:
Starship A has a fuel tank and a cargo hold. It launches to orbit. Starship B has two fuel tanks. It refuels Starship A from one of them, which goes off to the moon. Starship B comes back to earth. Starship C has already fuelled up the refuelling station in Lunar orbit in a previous mission. Since fuel is only required for insertion and landing burns, Starship A should be able to both land on and launch from the Moon on one tank, due to the Moon's lower gravity. It refuels in Lunar orbit and returns to Earth. That's three launches in total for one successful Moon landing mission. If it requires a second refuelling prior to landing on the Moon, then a fourth mission will be required to restock the orbital station, but on reflection I don't think the second refuelling should be necessary.