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Corporal punishment

Cainkane1

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My next door neighbor and friend has a 7 year old daughter with dicipline problems. She hits other children for no apparent reason. Other children won't play with her and shes not popular at school for obvious reasons.

Yesterday she hit her younger brother in front of her father. He beat her butt real good while she screamed and cried and lay on the ground. I can't understand her behaviour because when her mother was her age she was an angel. Is whipping a child like this the proper approach?
 
If you want to teach them to solve their problems with violence, then yes, it's a great approach.

Given that there are solutions that work far better and are better for the kids, though, I can't view it as anything but the lazy approach to parenting.
 
Cainkane1 said:
I think her father whipped her out of exasperation. Time outs don't seem to work. talking to her doesn't help. I don't know if shes in therapy or not although she should be.
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mmhh ok. she needs help then i guess.
 
Cainkane1 said:
I think her father whipped her out of exasperation. Time outs don't seem to work. talking to her doesn't help. I don't know if shes in therapy or not although she should be.
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My two cents; different kids respond to different forms of discipline. There is absolutely no 'one size fits all' method to raising kids.
 
Cainkane1:[/B] My next door neighbor and friend has a 7 year old daughter with dicipline problems. She hits other children for no apparent reason. Other children won't play with her and shes not popular at school for obvious reasons.

Yesterday she hit her younger brother in front of her father. He beat her butt real good while she screamed and cried and lay on the ground. I can't understand her behaviour because when her mother was her age she was an angel. Is whipping a child like this the proper approach?
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More background might be useful. Does the child have any interests besides acting unruly? Clearly she has pent-up energy, perhaps helping her find a non-violent form of expression might be useful. Something like sports or the creative arts?
 
Cainkane1 said:
I think her father whipped her out of exasperation. Time outs don't seem to work. talking to her doesn't help. I don't know if shes in therapy or not although she should be.
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Hitting kids out of exasperation doesn't make it right.
Parenting is a hard process that relies on consistency and example more than anything else.
IMHO
 
We just had a rather long thread on this subject, with many references to scholarly articles and studies indicating that corporal punishment is a bad idea/doesn't work.

Likely this whole family needs some sort of therapy...However, such things tend to be expensive. If this child continues to attack other children at school, the state (in the form of family services or the juvenile authorities) may get involved.
 
Cainkane1 said:
My next door neighbor and friend has a 7 year old daughter with dicipline problems. She hits other children for no apparent reason. Other children won't play with her and shes not popular at school for obvious reasons.

Yesterday she hit her younger brother in front of her father. He beat her butt real good while she screamed and cried and lay on the ground. ................
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How has her behavior been, since then ?
 
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Cainkane1 said:
I think her father whipped her out of exasperation. Time outs don't seem to work. talking to her doesn't help. I don't know if shes in therapy or not although she should be.
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There was a recent thread on this and the studies presented indicated that spanking loses effectiveness when it is used as the main form of discipline. That may apply to punishment in general? Since this is an established behaviour, spanking would end up being applied regularly, rather than infrequently, so it's not likely to be effective in this situation. That may also be why the time outs don't seem to work.

Her parents should look for advice on how to change her behaviour, starting with their pediatrician.

Linda
 
What's this? A child in the US who is not already on medication to control her behaviour?

Do the authorities know about this?
 
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