I think most of the "layperson" explanations confuse the issue too.
Can anyone explain to me how the "twin paradox" actually works?
Is the difference in age supposed to be from different acceleration or different velocities? I've heard the same thing explained both ways at different times. In other words, if the traveling twin flies away at 1g acceleration while the stay-at-home twin waits on a planet with 1g gravity, will they or won't they be the same age when the traveling twin returns?
I'm not going to go to deep here because frankly I'm not motivated enough this evening and I feel rather stoopid today. It does seem to me that you are mixing some things up here. You may be confusing the equivalence of gravity and acceleration with the explanation of the twin paradox. The time difference occurs because one undergoes an acceleration whereas the other doesn't. Which one does determines who is going to be younger. The gravity field and the actual acceleration do not relate in this example.
Another one that confuses me is the one about two spaceships traveling towards each-other at a high fraction of the speed of light. If each traveler observes the other through a telescope, for both travelers time appears to be moving faster for the other person than it is for them.
My question is, what has this got to do with relativity? If both ships are traveling towards each-other, the time it takes light to travel from one to the other is constantly shrinking due to diminishing distance. Two events a set time apart will appear to happen closer together simply because it takes less time for the light to cross the distance for the second event than it did the first. An illusion explainable with Newtonian physics, but I've heard it being used as an example of the strangeness of relativity.
I seem to relate better to things moving apart. Get away from me Universe!
The essence of these "thought experiments" is that any effects from the limited transmission speed are already eliminated. That alone doesn't explain the results anyhow. Simply add the phrase "after all speed of light delays are taken into account" to the description of the problem.
The one thing a lot of people don't seem to grasp about relativity is that it affects apparent simultaneity. We are used to living in a world in which the concept of a moment in time can be defined using external events. We tend to define moments in time by what events occurred simultaneously within that moment. For example, I sneeze and at the same time a batter in New York hit a ball and an astronaut on Mars kicked a rock. We would tend to say all those events occurred at the same "time". Once again, all light travel times are taken into account. Truth is that to another observer, say one moving through the Solar System at 90% of light speed relative to the Solar System, those events would occur at different moments in time. They would not be simultaneous to that observer. Therein lies the essence of almost all apparent "paradoxes". They only appear to be paradoxes if you consider simultaneity to be absolute.
The barn and pole paradox is probably the easiest to explain. The story goes that you have a barn 10 meters long and a pole 11 meters long. If things really do appear shortened at high velocities you should be able to move the pole fast enough to get it contained entirely within the barn at the same time. At that time you should be able to close doors on the barn and trap the pole in the barn without damaging the barn.
The experiment works as far as the observers at the barn are concerned. They wait till the pole is entirely within the barn and cycle the doors. the pole is trapped and the barn survives. (These doors open and close real fast BTW)
The problem is that from the poles POV the doors were
not closed at the same time. As the pole approaches the far door it closes and the pole is still sticking out the back. Then the far door opens and the pole starts to exit the barn and only after the front of the pole is already outside of the barn does the back door close. Yet the folks by the barn insist that doors opened and closed simultaneously.
Time is not as absolute as it may appear.
