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Asking help from a God inside you...

Mercutio

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I was going to respond to this in its original thread, but it is enough of a tangent that I bring it here instead. The exchange here is between Beleth, first, who is responded to by Cleopatra:
The good that comes from people comes from people and their own will which guides them to do good things.
Yes, this is how I believe that it is and on the other hand I don't think that I contradict myself every morning that I pass by a small chapel next to my office,I light a candle and I ask God not to let me be unjust and cruel to anybody during the day.
This got me thinking, in my atheist/behaviorist manner, about something which I have often thought about before, the importance of ritual in our lives. I do not mean (necessarily) ritual in the sense of organized religion, although I believe that much of that ritual will overlap with what I am talking about (depending on the individuals involved). Rather, I mean our little personal rituals--lighting a candle, saying a prayer, making a wish on a star...everything from the trivial to the sacred.

Much of this is seen, in the behaviorist literature, as "superstitious behavior", and much has been written on it. I hasten to add, though, that this label is used as a technical term, not in any derogatory sense. These behaviors are ones in which we act as if there is a causal connection between our actions and the things we are trying to influence, when in fact there is no such causality (at least, at first--but wait for the next paragraph). The textbook example is of the superstitious ritual an athlete goes through before a game, or before a particularly important moment in a game. If their performance was dependent on that ritual, we would see imitation of successful rituals, ritual coaches, how-to books on better rituals...but of course, different athletes each have their own. It is not the specific behaviors that matter.

Ah, but if you stop them--if you do not allow them to complete their ritual--their performance suffers! What is the deal here? The straightforward behavioral description is that the ritual has become a discriminative stimulus, a signal to act in a particular way. Without that signal (and no, it need not be something you are completely aware of), the subsequent behavior is less fluid, more rule-governed and less contingency-shaped, less automatic. It is as if the traffic lights are gone--the drivers know how to drive, but it is much more difficult now.

In some cases, discriminative stimuli need not be consciously perceived, while in others they may be. (In each circumstance, there may be a number of discriminative stimuli--you may be aware of only some. Oh...I should add that there is also a classically conditioned component to the emotions in each situation, but I do not intend to write a thesis here...see Rescorla & Wagner for that literature.) My thoughts are, about some of our more important rituals, that they are often very conscious and intentional, that they are discriminative stimuli which help us to focus our attention on what is important in our lives.

When Cleo, in her example above, lights a candle and asks God not to let her be cruel and unjust to anybody during the day...it is because that is very important. So important that it deserves the intervention of God, whether that god is assumed to be external or the internal manifestation of what is good and important (see Beleth's thread for the discussion on this which prompted my comments here. It might help if I linked it. Cleopatra and Beleth's exchange, especially on page three, are what I am speaking of.) When I make a wish on a star, or on a wishbone, or whatever (and I do, I admit unabashedly), I do so believing that it is a good thing to focus my attention on what is important enough to use a wish on if in fact such wishes worked.

The concept of "stimulus control" in behaviorism refers to putting a particular behavior under the control of a salient stimulus, rather than allowing it to remain under the control of more capricious environmental stimuli. In behavioral interventions with habits, for instance, one method is to allow the person to perform the habit, but only in the presence of a particular stimulus (broadly defined, this could be anything from an object to a particular time of day). The habit may be engaged in freely, but only when the stimulus is present. Step two would be to fade, or slowly reduce or eliminate, the stimulus. If step one was done properly, step two makes eliminating the habit much easier. Anyway...one of the ways to make the stimulus more effective is to make it salient. "Drawing a bright line" is how one source puts it--make a noticeable difference between these important situations and the less important stuff of our lives. Cleopatra's candle does this. Prayer, for some people, does this (I qualify that statement, because I know people who will utter a prayer for virtually any old thing--"lord help me get the dishes done...", and this does not allow for a "bright line" between important and unimportant). Wishes, if treated seriously, do this. New Year's resolutions should do this, but often don't last through January.

Anyway...I guess this is the very very long version of agreeing with Cleo's assertion that it is not a contradiction to believe that good comes from people, and to ask God for help. I hope I do not offend any by referring to god as a discriminative stimulus, or by suggesting that there is a very good and important dimension to ritual and superstition.

Just my 2 cents....comments?
 
Something's missing here: Isn't it important to distinguish between seeing the ritual for what it is and assigning to the ritual supernatural qualities ?

You see your wishing merely as a way to focus on what's important. You know that there is nothing mysterious beyond that. Are there people who perform religious rituals without believing in God ? I think not. Whatever idea of God anyone may have, even if s/he believes that God doesn't intervene at all, I think that a religious person still views such rituals as something that establishes some kind of supernatural communication.
 
El Greco said:
Something's missing here: Isn't it important to distinguish between seeing the ritual for what it is and assigning to the ritual supernatural qualities ?

.... I think that a religious person still views such rituals as something that establishes some kind of supernatural communication.

And what do you suggest for someone who is convinced "prayer" is both affective and effective, yet is also certain that nothing supernatural exists? Supernatural is a -- dare I say it, materialist -- buzz-word (and strawman).
 
hammegk said:
And what do you suggest for someone who is convinced "prayer" is both affective and effective, yet is also certain that nothing supernatural exists? Supernatural is a -- dare I say it, materialist -- buzz-word (and strawman).


Who is that "someone" ? I'd like to talk with such a person ""who is convinced "prayer" is both affective and effective, yet is also certain that nothing supernatural exists".

And I suggest nothing, to nobody.
 
El Greco said:
And I suggest nothing, to nobody.
Interesting, I thought I heard the sound of ax-grinding. I apparently stand corrected.

As to a "who", who knows?
 
Hammegk said:
And what do you suggest for someone who is convinced "prayer" is both affective and effective, yet is also certain that nothing supernatural exists? Supernatural is a -- dare I say it, materialist -- buzz-word (and strawman).
Such a person should be enthusiastic about trying to figure out who or what this non-supernatural prayer granter is, then.

~~ Paul
 
Sound advice. Many (probable) charlatans have purported to have done so. Caveat emptor.

Who else knows what affects & effects you?
 
El Greco said:
Something's missing here: Isn't it important to distinguish between seeing the ritual for what it is and assigning to the ritual supernatural qualities ?

You see your wishing merely as a way to focus on what's important. You know that there is nothing mysterious beyond that. Are there people who perform religious rituals without believing in God ? I think not. Whatever idea of God anyone may have, even if s/he believes that God doesn't intervene at all, I think that a religious person still views such rituals as something that establishes some kind of supernatural communication.
Did you read the thread which inspired this one? Specifically, Cleo's posts on pages 2 and 3? Depending on your definition of believing in god, we may have found someone to fit your criteria.
 
Mercutio said:
Did you read the thread which inspired this one? Specifically, Cleo's posts on pages 2 and 3? Depending on your definition of believing in god, we may have found someone to fit your criteria.

Yes, I've been following that thread from the beginning. I suspect that you suspect that you have a firm understanding of how Cleo views "God" and whether she believes that that entity is actually existent or is only a by-product of human logic. After reading many of Cleo's posts about religion, I have concluded that I have absolutely no idea about her idea of God, that's why I chose to talk generally and not about her. So my observation remains valid, at least the way I see it.
 
El Greco said:
Yes, I've been following that thread from the beginning. I suspect that you suspect that you have a firm understanding of how Cleo views "God" and whether she believes that that entity is actually existent or is only a by-product of human logic. After reading many of Cleo's posts about religion, I have concluded that I have absolutely no idea about her idea of God, that's why I chose to talk generally and not about her. So my observation remains valid, at least the way I see it.
It remains valid because you do not understand a possible counterexample to it?

I admit my understanding of Cleo, or of anybody, could be off. It could be that I fit what she said to my pre-existing belief.

Other than that...your first comment, distinguishing between the ritual for what it is, and its alleged supernatural qualities, I probably agree with. The sort of rituals I speak of are not an identical set with "religious rituals" by any stretch. Two types of rituals which do not fit my OP would be "mindless" rituals (say, reciting the lord's prayer by rote--which is an entirely different thing than saying the exact same words in the context of an earnest supplication) or, for lack of a better phrase, "incantations" in which the specific words and behaviors are believed to have magical effects themselves (in this case, the belief in supernatural force is an integral part of the behavior, so it is not the same sort of thing as what I am looking at). So...I am looking at a particular subset of rituals, and within that subset I do not think (though of course I may be wrong) that we must account for supernatural qualities. They may be there, but they are not a necessary part of the ritual.
 
Mercutio said:
It remains valid because you do not understand a possible counterexample to it?

It remains valid because I doubt the counterexample. If Cleo were to chime in and say in a straightforward way that she doesn't believe that God exists, then yes, we'll have found someone who fits the description.
 
El Greco said:
It remains valid because I doubt the counterexample. If Cleo were to chime in and say in a straightforward way that she doesn't believe that God exists, then yes, we'll have found someone who fits the description.
You are missing a few words...all she would have to say is that she does not believe that God exists as you define him. Her statements in Beleth's thread appear (I will admit I cannot read Cleo's mind) to define God very differently than you do. Your definition has a supernatural element as a necessary condition, hers does not appear to. (actually, I am not comfortable putting words in her mouth, so let me merely say that while your definition may seem perfect to you, it is not the only definition of of God.)
 
Mercutio said:
You are missing a few words...all she would have to say is that she does not believe that God exists as you define him.

Yes, of course. But let's not play with words, I think it's clear what I mean: No "Supernatural", no "Paradise", no "Hell", no "Miracles", etc. If Cleo's God does not have such "unexplainable" qualities then I'll admit that there are people who perform religious rituals without feeling they contact any kind of God.

Which leads me to clarify that this isn't my point anyway. For most people "religious rituals" and "no God" are incompatible anyway, don't you agree ? And all I wanted to say was that there is a fundamental difference between rituals like your "wishing" and a "conventional" prayer.
 
El Greco said:
And all I wanted to say was that there is a fundamental difference between rituals like your "wishing" and a "conventional" prayer.
Shall we call it "intent"? :)
 
hammegk said:
Shall we call it "intent"? :)
Or context, perhaps. It is the same as the difference between a behavior and an operant, a behavior embedded in its context. (OK, I only said this because hammegk was one of only a couple of people who actually read the behaviorism tutorial I linked to--months ago..., and I wanted to mention again that I really appreciated that.)
 
Mercutio said:
This got me thinking, in my atheist/behaviorist manner, about something which I have often thought about before, the importance of ritual in our lives. ... Anyway...I guess this is the very very long version of agreeing with Cleo's assertion that it is not a contradiction to believe that good comes from people, and to ask God for help. I hope I do not offend any by referring to god as a discriminative stimulus, or by suggesting that there is a very good and important dimension to ritual and superstition.
Cleo's conception is very refreshing. Reminds me of that saying, 'God helps them that help themselves'.

I'm not sure I have any rituals outside of holidays and such, but I do read religious works everyday. Not as a way to know God or anything like that, just because I find it interesting and I'm trying to work my way through all the major religions. On the off chance there is a God, he's welcome to chime in at any time.

I've heard more than one person decry the end of the universal draft for the importance it used to serve as a ritual marking the start of adulthood. We have birthday parties, anniversaries, hold weddings and funerals and graduations, all kinds of things. I think that demonstrates an enjoyment of ritual if not a need. Or would behaviorists consider those qualitatively different? Ceremonies maybe?

The more common rituals that people do daily or weekly seem like expressions of a desire to explain and control the world. Those I would separate into things people believe affect the world and things people do for enjoyment. The first kind sounds like mistakes in thinking. I haven't read a whole lot about behaviorism, but I'd be interested in knowing how easy it is to 'reprogram' performance related rituals. Can you only replace one ritual for another once you've made that connection in your brain? Would visualizations of perfect form in a freethrow or whatever serve the same purpose? Would that even be considered a ritual, or just a training method?
 
I understand a need for ritual. Our society is already highly ritualized. Most of it just has to do with your job, and isn't very fun, so a nice ritualized holiday is good on occasion. You can relax, but still feel like you're on track. It's the supernatural part I don't understand.
 
Anyway...I guess this is the very very long version of agreeing with Cleo's assertion that it is not a contradiction to believe that good comes from people, and to ask God for help. I hope I do not offend any by referring to god as a discriminative stimulus, or by suggesting that there is a very good and important dimension to ritual and superstition.

Well, the placebo effect comes to mind. Some pray, some look to crystals, some use positive affirmations, some use astrology, but the underlying effective causation is the placebo effect.

The problem here is that once one who is benefitting from the placebo becomes aware he is receiving a placebo the beneficial effect disappears.

My personal opinion is that the best scenario is for all people to realize that they are the captains of their own ship, to an extent, and to steer that ship in a wise manner to the extent they are able.

It really doesn't (have to) matter what placebo one chooses in order to live life in a (subjectively) positive manner as long as one does so. The only time problems occur is when one becomes a fundamentalist concerning their placebo faith and considers those without the same faith as lesser beings.

The mind is an incredibly complex and simple thing. It can be difficult to change long standing behaviors by oneself, but remarkably easy when one believes they are being aided by some supernatural force. If one is making positive changes I would suggest leaving them to thier superstitions. If one is making negative changes I would suggest a dose of reality.

If I suffer misfortune and am aided by another I don't think I will care if my benefactor is motivated by a desire to please their god, pay back good karma, shave time off pergatory or simply do something nice for someone.
 
Interesting analysis Mercutio. It's relieving to know that what I am doing has been analyzed and therefore is very human. :)

The reason why I ask God every morning( in reality I am asking politely myself) to help me not to be cruel or injust is because I believe that I am practicing a very cruel profession and I don't wish to lose my sensitivity while trying to keep my reason.

You know, when you visit jails on a daily basis and you have to deal with repulsive crimes , there are times that you feel that you are losing it and you don't know anymore what is right and what is wrong. Many colleagues have various ways in dealing with that.

Others run a wild, expensive life-style with a lot of drugs and sex, others do nothing but collecting money and others become moralists ad nauseam.So far I haven't met a normal criminologist It's difficult not to become a cartoon when you practice law. I have always been envious of the strong ones who say " I don't care if the accused has chopped his son into pieces and roasted the kid afterwards, I care to prove that he has or he has not done what he has been accused of". I wish I could say that. I respect Law and becoming a lawyer was my dream I don't take it lightly.

Also, I don't know if you have any idea of what places jails are.Jails are the hell on this very earth. This is the reason why I believe that we do criminals a favor when we execute them and we don't lock them behind bars for the rest of their lives. Jails are shocking places and I go there almost everyday. In Christmas I attemded a small party the prisoners had. I thought to start a thread about it but I couldn't handle the feelings and the thoughts. They were too many and they were contradicting each other.That night, at this " party" in the Prisons of Athens I prayed many times and I asked my God to pity those people and help the families of their victims to forgive them and live in peace.

So, this is where I am coming from. I have a bet to win and this is my heart and I am looking for ways to accomplish that. This little prayer, " in front of the eyes of God" seems to help. Many times during the way , when I feel the need to be sarcastic or to hit below the belt( I am not a saint-- I am tempted to cheat many times) I tell myself:" Stop! You have promised not to do that!".

God is my lawyer who validates the agreement with myself, if I can put it that way. Can humans play this role as well? I think not because people that we trust tend to justify everything we do in order to console that and I don't need justifications.

Now that I am typing this I realize that I have a rather patriarchal perception of the Deity. :)
 
Cleopatra said:
Interesting analysis Mercutio. It's relieving to know that what I am doing has been analyzed and therefore is very human. :)
In truth, I did not mean this to analyze you; rather, these were my own thoughts, prompted by your exchange with Beleth.

I know a bit about prisons; my sister used to, for years, represent prisoners in NY, for actions while they were already behind bars. Her descriptions corroborate your statement that it is a hellish environment. One would not treat a dog this way, and yet, virtually no one cares whether they are adequately represented, after all they are convicted murderers, rapists, thieves...

I am very glad there are people like you and like my sister to bring humanity to such places.
 

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