I'm not the world's fastest writer, and I had to deal with a rabbit in the house in the meantime. (
No really.) At the risk of having my jugular opened, here's the edited version. Give me another hour and I'd probably completely rewrite it.
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Apologies for talking about you like you're not in the room, but I do find shuttit's arguments fascinating, sometimes even compelling.
My conception of my wife as a woman involves the ability to produce ova, but in a more transcendent sense in terms of the connection to cultural ideas associated with fertility and nurturing and all sorts of other connections and associations. Her being a woman gives me the opportunity to aspire to and try to enact the things that are noble in being a man and require a woman. Yes, at the root of it there is physicality, but if you reduce it to just some materialist thing about ova I think you've thrown away what everybody actually cares about.
However, I wonder if I'd find them as compelling if I were a woman with, in the current parlance, lived experience.
Take my wife. (Not a setup for a Henny Youngman joke.) Last year The Lancet's now infamous "bodies with vaginas" issue
made her, and many
others in these parts, livid, not least for the blatant
double standard. It doesn't matter that if you read
the article itself, given the context a case can be made for that particular sentence formulation. Using
that on the cover was another in a long line of insults.
Given the quote I opened with my assumption here – please correct me if I'm wrong (and it may have come up previously in this epic series of threads) – is that shuttit wouldn't approve either. On the other hand, I can also imagine him carefully reading the article and concluding that "bodies with vaginas" was indeed the correct if not only way to phrase that, so sorry, ladies.
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It's not hard to flip around.
I actually think it is, a little. If you need that unpacked I may be some time.