I think most of the people involved in this tale should follow what I call "Shemp's Three Ups":
1. Suck it up.
2. Grow up.
3. Shut up.
As a transracial person myself (correct term: other-colored), I am highly offended by this. I refuse to go back into the closet. I wear my race proudly, if ambiguously. And even though it only extends as far as my belly button.
Not that it's anyone's business, but my genitalia remain Caucasian. I have deadnamed my penis "Michael Bolton." I will be cancelling my subscription to Hypatia!