I just wondered what most people's opinion is about sex outside of, or perhaps in addition to, marriage. We have been "swinging" for a number of years now. We tend to like playing with other couples and single females for adult fun. In our opinion, this is just recreational sex and is no different than water skiing. Why is it that some people find this so perverted?
No objections to the swinging lifestyle.
Austin Powers was quite a swinger, and you see how happy he is.
Sex can be and is enjoyable, its good for the self-esteem, good for the immune system. Its mutually increases the pleasure between the two (or more?) people who participate. Practiced safely, I dont see any moral objections.
Austin Powers was quite a swinger, and you see how happy he is.
Sex can be and is enjoyable, its good for the self-esteem, good for the immune system. Its mutually increases the pleasure between the two (or more?) people who participate. Practiced safely, I dont see any moral objections.
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I don't find it to be perverted. I do find it to be stupid, given the dynamics of personal relationships, and the prevalence of STDs.
UnrepentantSinner
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It's just wrong.
SteveW said:
I think there's a big difference between what an individual would find comfortable acceptable behavior for himself, and what is acceptable for everyone else. I think a lot of people can't get a grasp on this distinction. I, personally, don't feel comfortable at this point in my life to engage in swinging or any sort of sexual activities outside of my monogamous relationship, however I think if done conscientiously and safely between consenting parties there's absolutely nothing wrong about it. It may be legitimately considered sexually deviant but let's not forget that deviance simply means outside the norm.
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I think it's fine IF and only IF both partners are 100% behind it. I have unfortunately seen some bad examples. In one of them the woman would tell anybody that she and her husband had an "open relationship" and that they could do what they wanted. If you then looked at her husband while she went on a rampage it was painfully obvious to everybody that it was only HER that lived in an "open relationship".
Well they are divorced now and both have found new partners.
But as i said, if both partners are 100% behind swinging then why not?
Well they are divorced now and both have found new partners.
But as i said, if both partners are 100% behind swinging then why not?
I can't even think about swinging without cross referencing images or George and Yortuk Festrunk. Then I am no longer in the mood.
http://www.stevemartin.com/television/festrunk.php
http://www.stevemartin.com/television/festrunk.php
If it's cool for you, it's cool for you. Personally, I try not to know or care what other adults do with their private parts. Some friends of ours have been into the open marriage lifestyle for several years now and it really impacts my friendship with them very little. Sometimes there is someone else living with them, sometimes not.
But, the important question is:
If recreational sex is like water skiing,
what have I been doing wrong all these years?
.......Because it's nowhere near that much fun!
But, the important question is:
If recreational sex is like water skiing,
what have I been doing wrong all these years?
.......Because it's nowhere near that much fun!
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Do you have children? If so, you are likely damaging their happiness. Like it or not, this arrangement is unstable, and affects the whole family. The reason many people engage in swinging is because stability in sexual relationships is stifling. If you don't have children, then I don't care.
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hgc said:
I guess I don't really see the connection here. What do children have to do with this lifestyle?
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Cleopatra said:
Is marriage only about sexual claims? Some people can separate love from sex. To such people, the body of the spouse is less important than the other qualities. In this, they are able to distinguish that act of sex from the presence of love.
Sex and love really have no place being together. If you happen to love the person with whom you are having intercourse ... Yay! I doubt many one-night stands are about love, though.
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Cleopatra said:
I am not claiming to be a swinger but... to answer your question. I think you get married to have something solid but you swing for the adventure, the excitment, variety
I have no problem with those that want to swing, I've known a few people like that and I've gone to a bar that was for swingers, now I don't swing but let me tell you, those people had fun, it was without a doubt a very interesting experience
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I don't think there is anything wrong with the 'swinging' lifestyle as long as all people who are involved in the relationship are informed and are in agreement that this is appropriate.
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hgc said:
Children have nothing to do with this. If it involves the adults, like any other aspect of a parents sex life, it is not the childrens business. As long as one is not inviting the children along for the ride, then how does it harm?
What is more important to children is that the parents show them love, boundries, consideration, and treat them and their spouse with decency and respect.
