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Menopause is Awesome!

Orphia Nay

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It's been 12 months since my last period and I've been the healthiest and happiest I've been in my life.

I thought I'd post about it for The Sciences.

I've formed a theory that the scary stories about Menopause act like the Nocebo Effect, and people prime themselves to feel bad, so they "feel bad" to prove themselves right.

NOT SAYING ANYONE I KNOW IS DOING THAT! Just my theory. If you think about it, it might give some people hope.

I'm not denying anyone's truly awful experiences, but rather, doubting some of the vague, non-specific maladies that some people "suffer" from and also those that happen throughout life.

A list of "symptoms" (from what I usually think is a respected site):

"Some of the symptoms that women may experience include:
hot flushes, night sweats
aches and pains
crawling or itching sensations under the skin
forgetfulness
headaches
irritability
lack of self-esteem
reduced sex drive (libido)
tiredness, difficulty sleeping – wakefulness or waking hot and sweaty
urinary frequency
vaginal dryness
discomfort with sexual intercourse."


I'm sure there are plenty of men who have some of those symptoms at age 30!

I hope I don't have to clarify my click-bait thread title.

I just felt compelled to post my experience of perfect health to slightly counteract the public myth of doom and gloom.
 
If you're not suffering hot flushes...............just you wait!!! And that's just as an observer.
 
It does seem to vary considerably from woman to woman. It's possible some of the difference is due to psychosomatic factors, but I suspect most of it is natural variation.

I use to suffer from ovulation pains as well as painful periods. I had no real problems during the menopause and, after 12 pain free years, am extremely happy to be past all that.
 
I bring marshmallows to bed because I can toast them from her radiated heat when the night flashes hit. As long as I bring chocolate to make s'mores, she does not object.
 
Orphia Nay said:
It's been 12 months since my last period and I've been the healthiest and happiest I've been in my life.

I thought I'd post about it for The Sciences.

I've formed a theory that the scary stories about Menopause act like the Nocebo Effect, and people prime themselves to feel bad, so they "feel bad" to prove themselves right.

NOT SAYING ANYONE I KNOW IS DOING THAT! Just my theory. If you think about it, it might give some people hope.

I'm not denying anyone's truly awful experiences, but rather, doubting some of the vague, non-specific maladies that some people "suffer" from and also those that happen throughout life.

A list of "symptoms" (from what I usually think is a respected site):

"Some of the symptoms that women may experience include:
hot flushes, night sweats
aches and pains
crawling or itching sensations under the skin
forgetfulness
headaches
irritability
lack of self-esteem
reduced sex drive (libido)
tiredness, difficulty sleeping – wakefulness or waking hot and sweaty
urinary frequency
vaginal dryness
discomfort with sexual intercourse."


I'm sure there are plenty of men who have some of those symptoms at age 30!

I hope I don't have to clarify my click-bait thread title.

I just felt compelled to post my experience of perfect health to slightly counteract the public myth of doom and gloom.
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My ex-wife seems to have become sne now that she no longer has her period. From what I've been told she is quiet and never loses her temper now that her period is behind her at age fifty-nine. Her third husband seems very content with her.
 
Cainkane1 said:
My ex-wife seems to have become sne now that she no longer has her period. From what I've been told she is quiet and never loses her temper now that her period is behind her at age fifty-nine. Her third husband seems very content with her.
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:newlol But Correlation vs Causation happens on both sides of the fence too.
 
Orphia Nay said:
It's been 12 months since my last period and I've been the healthiest and happiest I've been in my life.

I thought I'd post about it for The Sciences.

I've formed a theory that the scary stories about Menopause act like the Nocebo Effect, and people prime themselves to feel bad, so they "feel bad" to prove themselves right.

NOT SAYING ANYONE I KNOW IS DOING THAT! Just my theory. If you think about it, it might give some people hope.

I'm not denying anyone's truly awful experiences, but rather, doubting some of the vague, non-specific maladies that some people "suffer" from and also those that happen throughout life.

A list of "symptoms" (from what I usually think is a respected site):

"Some of the symptoms that women may experience include:
hot flushes, night sweats
aches and pains
crawling or itching sensations under the skin
forgetfulness
headaches
irritability
lack of self-esteem
reduced sex drive (libido)
tiredness, difficulty sleeping – wakefulness or waking hot and sweaty
urinary frequency
vaginal dryness
discomfort with sexual intercourse."


I'm sure there are plenty of men who have some of those symptoms at age 30!

I hope I don't have to clarify my click-bait thread title.

I just felt compelled to post my experience of perfect health to slightly counteract the public myth of doom and gloom.
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My mother (the type who insist they are fine whilst collapsed on the floor hardly able to breathe and turning blue - true story) always thought most of the menopause was stuff and nonsense and women being drama queens hit the menopause like a brick wall, completely threw her. She had a terrible 5 years with all the symptons including the "shoplifting" urges. Remember talking about that and she had never understood how some women used the menopause as an "excuse" for shoplifting but she had the same thing, she would be in a shop and would have an urge to shoplift the most ludicrous things, like say a 50p box of hairpins, things she didn't need or wanted and could have easily paid for - she never did as she did remain partially rational. Very strange.

Then I have another relative who is a hypochondriac - in the real sense - she still has pains in her shoulder from sitting in a draft for an hour one Christmas almost 30 years ago! And she just sailed through the menopause never even noticed it, well apart from not having to deal with the unmentionables.

Really does seem a crap shoot as to what symptoms a woman gets, sucks to be female!
 
I'm in the same boat: menopause has been kind of a non-event for me, here in my mid-60s. I did have one fear going in to it: one of my pre-menstrual symptoms was an urge to clean the house, but scheduling a party every few weeks takes care of that.

Yeah, I get hot and sweaty at night sometimes, but otherwise no big deal. I'm a little disappointed, in fact: I was kinda hoping for some symptoms so I could get some sympathy.
 
Retrograde said:
I'm in the same boat: menopause has been kind of a non-event for me, here in my mid-60s. I did have one fear going in to it: one of my pre-menstrual symptoms was an urge to clean the house, but scheduling a party every few weeks takes care of that.

Yeah, I get hot and sweaty at night sometimes, but otherwise no big deal. I'm a little disappointed, in fact: I was kinda hoping for some symptoms so I could get some sympathy.
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If you want sympathy, then invent some symptoms.
 
These are my symptoms since I hit menopause 2 years ago:

Forgetfulness- this is very frequent and it's most annoying when trying to get ready for work or a trip. I have to go back and get stuff forgotten at least 2-3 times.
Hot flash- once in awhile. I find I'm much more hot natured overall.
Migraines- I never had one until I went through menopause, that has gotten better in the last few months.
Urinary frequency- I have to get up 2-3 times a night to pee, it's annoying.

Other than that, I am in a much better mood and less likely to lose my temper. If I had known how much of an effect estrogen had on my psyche I would have opted to use some kind of progesterone only birth control method during my reproductive years to chill out.
 
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Orphia Nay said:
It's been 12 months since my last period and I've been the healthiest and happiest I've been in my life.

I thought I'd post about it for The Sciences.

I've formed a theory that the scary stories about Menopause act like the Nocebo Effect, and people prime themselves to feel bad, so they "feel bad" to prove themselves right.

NOT SAYING ANYONE I KNOW IS DOING THAT! Just my theory. If you think about it, it might give some people hope.

I'm not denying anyone's truly awful experiences, but rather, doubting some of the vague, non-specific maladies that some people "suffer" from and also those that happen throughout life.

A list of "symptoms" (from what I usually think is a respected site):

"Some of the symptoms that women may experience include:
hot flushes, night sweats
aches and pains
crawling or itching sensations under the skin
forgetfulness
headaches
irritability
lack of self-esteem
reduced sex drive (libido)
tiredness, difficulty sleeping – wakefulness or waking hot and sweaty
urinary frequency
vaginal dryness
discomfort with sexual intercourse."


I'm sure there are plenty of men who have some of those symptoms at age 30!

I hope I don't have to clarify my click-bait thread title.

I just felt compelled to post my experience of perfect health to slightly counteract the public myth of doom and gloom.
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Well, I suppose you realize that a long list of possible symptoms isn't the same as claiming that every woman, or even most women, will have all or even most of them. People so easily panic about things. Is it worse these days or am I just noticing it more?

Personally, my biggest side effect from menopause was breast cancer. It happened pretty immediately after I stopped menstruating.

(Pause while I turn the cause-and-effect meter back on.)

Actually, the only thing I noticed was hot flashes (not flushes). They were definitely uncomfortable for a few years. Now, 20 years later, I still have one when I first lie down in bed. Not to say that other people don't experience other things, but for me, that was it (except for one other issue which may not be mentionable here, and may be age-related anyway).
 
Orphia Nay said:
It's been 12 months since my last period and I've been the healthiest and happiest I've been in my life.

reduced sex drive (libido)
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Yeah, my wife had a total hysterectomy 6 years ago. Completely amputated her libido; thanks a lot doctor!

But she's alive and healthy and that is worth it. My wife after the surgery is much happier than before surgery. The doctor mentioned hormone replacement but she (we) said forget it after hearing about the possible side effects.

Ranb
 
Orphia Nay said:
It's been 12 months since my last period and I've been the healthiest and happiest I've been in my life.
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:) My wife went through menopause several years ago with similar results. for the first year or two she would regularly smile and say "isn't this great?!" I'd have no clue what she was talking about, so I'd ask and she'd remind me "I've not had a period since 2012 and I'm the happiest I've ever been, never had any downside, and we're having rocking sex damn near every day!"

That last bit was - and still is - what got my attention (hey, sometimes I was even there!). Its not what you hear advertised about menopause, but something I've heard from a few other couples, as well.
 
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