I love you guys. Sometimes in the science forum I don't even need to go deep into explaining what I'm talking about in order to get the sort of discussion I want.
One idea that I find particularly interesting is that relativity and quantum physics are genuinely separate. That is we have a 4D space-time, which can be distorted by masses to cause gravity, inside which different particles exist (or strings or whatever) that interact via the other three forces. This would explain why gravity has not been unified, because it does not have the same origin as the other forces.
Occam's razor can be tricky to apply sometimes, and is difficult to see when this explanation is more or less complex than the attempts at connecting all forces by postulating more and more unobserved particles and dimensions.
Occam's razor, in a trope, is a cutting edge of scientific theories. It works great for scientific theories, but its minimalism doesn't help a theory come closer to reality.
You're right that they're separate, but it's interesting in how they are separate. The 4-dimensional curves you're talking about, are Lorentz Manifold ideas. And Quantum Physics, as a spur of Relativity, contains these Maniforlds. But these ideas don't seem to be allowing QM to come to any strong, worldly, and familiar ideas for its observations.
That's the main reason I don't think spacetime is anything more than a very good, accurate model. I don't think that spacetime, from a Lorentz explanation, is accurate.
But the idea of spacetime, and the predictions it gives us, I think, has at least earned its way into our ordinary semantics for distinguishing certain charicteristics about our universe.
I'll go on about this some more later. I've got other things to do at the moment (and please excuse my grammar and errors; I don't have time to edit).
EDIT: edited anyway. I'm terrible at hurried first drafts.